February Habit #18 It Gifted Us With a Treasure

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February is Declutter for 15 minutes, and we are going to take full advantage of our time. Monday through Friday this month you will get a new Declutter Mission that follows the Zone we are in. If you have a declutter story or an idea that you have found to be useful please send us an email with MY DECLUTTER STORY in the subject line!

FlyLady Rebecca

February Declutter Mission:

No mission today, take this time to Renew Your Spirit!

Dear FlyLady,

10 years ago, my daughter moved back home with us during a rough patch and an unplanned pregnancy.  Our family room became a nursery-living area for her and her new babe.  This summer she bought a home of her own and moved out.  We had a closet that we hadn’t touched in those 10 years because we simply couldn’t get to it with all the mess.  This Christmas, I took a week off of work to clear out some of the stuff we hadn’t touched in 10 years.  We used our Christmas tree for the first time…among other things.  When emptying out the closet and regifting suits, dresses and coats that hadn’t been worn and were like new, we found a curious garbage bag with something wrapped in bath towels.  About 7 years ago, my DH’s lovely aunt passed away and everything with any of a religious hint was handed to us to dispose of or use as we saw fit.  I had completely forgotten that there were 2 pictures from my husband’s grandmother’s bedroom that had been tossed in a garbage bag and handed to us.  I put them in the closet not knowing what to do with them.  The ‘mystery’ bag contained two gorgeous framed pictures of Mary and Jesus.  My husband took one look at them and marched upstairs and hung them in our bedroom.  It was like looking at Gramma’s room from many years ago.  What we noticed on the back of the picture frame was a hand typed note.  It was a love note, written by Gramma’s father from Austria.  These pictures were a wedding gift to her almost 100 years ago.  So — our decluttering mission not only gifted the Rescue Mission with warm coats and suits, it gifted us with a treasure from my DH’s past and loving reminder of his own Gramma’s loving family for us to treasure and share with ours.

A FlyBaby

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Love Makes a House a Home

presidentframedfbREDDear Friends,

This morning as I was doing my morning routine, I turned on the computer so it would load the programs. I left it running and did my routine. When I got back to my computer, my screen saver had popped up. Here is what it said. (Robert loves to change it) LOL


I have seen this come up from time to time, but this morning it was a God Breeze. With the New Year, I want us to focus on ways we can show or family our love for them. And I don’t mean saying those 3 words either. What can we DO! Do is an action word. So what action can we take that will convey to our family that we love them.

I am going to brainstorm a bit here.

1. By dressing and looking presentable to them at all times. Kids are sometimes embarrassed by the way we don’t take care of ourselves; looking slouchy when we take them to school and other places. Have you ever heard these words, Mom please stay in the car, I can go in by myself. The kids won’t tell you why they want you to stay behind. If you look good to yourself, your children are going to be so proud of you. Even we plus size women can look wonderful if we will put out a little effort. Try it!

2. We can show our family we love them by not raising our voices and having a sharp tongue. When we let those loud ugly words fly out of our mouths, we can’t bring them back and change how those word hurt. So choose your tone and words carefully. You will find as the clutter leaves your home, the stressed out attitudes will be gone too. Practice talking in a quiet voice, it is so hard to yell or say nasty things, when we are whispering.

3. Put a smile on your face, even if something is not good, let the smile be your first defense for those bad, hurtful thoughts you are having. After a while that smile with turn your sad feelings into nice ones. If you don’t believe me, prove me wrong!

4. Compliment your family, not as a whole, but one at a time. Focus on the positive things that they are doing, don’t reinforce the negative ones. Put little thank you notes in lunch boxes or where they can find them. Tell them just how proud you are of them.

5. Show them you love them, by doing something that they hate to do: Empty the dishwasher, putting away laundry or make their bed.

6. This one simple thing, means more than anything else. Keep the laundry done and put away. Nothing says I love you, like having clean underwear and socks to put on. Don’t just wash and dry it, then leave it in the baskets all wadded up. No one likes a scavenger hunt just to get dressed in the morning. Laundry is just a routine, once you establish the habit, your family will always feel loved. Now if your children are responsible for their own laundry, then do a load for them occasionally. It won’t kill you.

7. The smell of something cooking on the stove, says I love you too. Plan your menus, fix things that your family loves. Make mealtime a special time. Set a lovely table, teach your children how to set the table and proper table manners. If you don’t know them yourself, then get a book and make a game of it. All of you can learn together. Proper table manners will give your children the boost that they need to feel confident at those dinner meetings with the boss and co-workers in the future. They may not think much of it now, but when they are grown, they will have the experience and will thank you for it.

8. Keep your living room, entrance and kitchen presentable for company at all times. I am not saying it has to be spotless, just not looking cluttered. Children and husbands get embarrassed when they live in a house that they can’t bring their friends to. They may not tell you, but they tend to go to their homes to play and not to their own. Wouldn’t you rather have them where you know where they are instead of out doing things that you can not supervise.

9. Give your family little rewards for jobs well done. Pats on the back, hugs and yes even kisses. So many times we forget to show our affection for our family, because we are just to busy to stop and throw your arms around them.

10. Brag on your husband to friends, it will get back to them. I promise. There is nothing like seeing your husband come home strutting, because he heard something you said nice about him.

11. Keep their favorite treats in the house. I know this can be a problem with those of us that tend to over indulge. But showing that you love them by not eating up their goodies as well as showing yourself that you can do it. I got a handle on this, by freezing the goodies. LOL It is hard to eat a bite-sized candy bar that is hard as a brick bat.

You have joined our group to get your home organized. I’ll bet you never dreamed that we would take this approach to cleaning your house. Before you know it, the bad habits will be put aside and new habits will be forming. It is a form of FLY Washing. I have found that if we concentrate on you, the house will fall into place. So go get dressed to shoes and fix your hair and face. Put a smile on your face, a whisper to your voice and watch your family bloom right in front of you.

Are you ready to FLY?


This is why I wrote Sink Reflections. To give you a guide to finding a more loving way to get through your day! Another great book to get you motivated is Hidden Treasures.

We have a great sale on our XL Mop. It is larger than the mop I am using in this video.

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Purple Rags are Still Bleeding Purple

Dear FlyLady,

I have never written before and I regret that the first time I do, it is with a concern. I bought the purple rags a couple months ago and was super excited to get them.  When I received them, the white bags used to wash them in were stained purple from the rags. I had read where you urged people to wash them before using them so I actually washed them four times before using them just to make sure all the dye was gone. I also soaked the white bags in Oxiclean (my go to stain remover) to no avail. However, I figured that washing four times would get all the dye out of them. So imagine my surprise when I filled a bucket with warm soapy water to wipe down my toddler’s hi-chair and put the rag in only for the water to turn purple! I was horrified and grateful that I had not used it as it likely would have stained the hi-chair and anything else that touched it.

Thank you!

Flybaby A

Dear FlyBaby A,

I am so sorry you have a concern about the dye in our purple rags. I am so glad you washed them many times. Other FlyBabies have had the same issues. Here are some things to try.

Try using super hot water in a bucket to bleed the dye.

Add a cup of salt to the hot water bucket.

A cup of vinegar will also set the dye.

Don’t worry about the white bag. That is not a problem. It is just a bag the rags are shipped in. I usually throw that away. Don’t allow your perfectionism to upset you when these rags are so worth the trouble to bleed the dye.

Wash dishes with the rags. This is what I do. I always have a sink full of hot soapy water in my stainless steel sink when I am cooking. If you have a white sink; don’t do this. The dishes are pre-washed before they go into the dishwasher.

purpleragbogoIf you don’t want to deal with this then get the bronze or silver rags. Purple Rags are on a BOGO right now!

The great thing about our purple rags is that they do not show dirt. Don’t allow your perfectionism to keep you from using our most popular tool.


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Pamper Mission 02-18-2018

Welcome to a brand new week and a brand new Pamper Mission! Ok well this one isn’t technically brand new but, with the snow, ice, and freezing temperatures in the south this week, it’s a much needed Pamper! It’s time for us to warm up our chilled bones. Whether it’s in front of the fire place or in a hot bubble bath, take some time out just for you today and relax in the toasty heat. Let the warmth heat you from the outside in! Set aside the time just for you and relax and indulge yourself and escape from the cold winter weather for a bit. You deserve it!

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Lightening The Load


Dear FlyLady,

I have been flying off and on for over 10 years; through children growing into college age, my mother with Alzheimer’s disease, and my mother-in-law with cancer. Slowly I have moved toward the light!

One thing that has truly lightened the load and blessed our home, is dealing with the paper clutter DAILY! Now instead of leaving all the papers on every flat surface, “because I was afraid to lose them”, I have 2 folders in a small stand up case on my counter by the door (my launch pad). One folder is “mail to answer” and one folder is “needs attention”. The rest is recycled or filed. It usually takes less than 5 minutes a day.

Thank you for your help!

Cathy in Ohio

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Presidents Day Sale this Weekend

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We all love a long weekend. Here is your chance to save 15% on everything in the FlyShop!

Dear FlyLady,
The new XL mop should be called Amazing, Life Changing Mop!!  I got mine yesterday and tried it out.  Just wow!!  I used it on my floors without sweeping first and was shocked at the stuff that came up with just a couple of easy swipes of the mop. I don’t have carpet in my house – it’s all hardwood and linoleum.

I also have multiple rescue kitties and puppers, as well as human teenagers. Before today, I’d always struggled with keeping my floors clean because of back issues.  Between sweeping and then filling up the mop bucket, mopping, and then rinsing the mop and emptying the bucket and rinsing it out- by the time all that was done, my back was done. Or I’d have to rely on my children to sweep and mop. When I did mop,  I’d have to rest afterwards with a heating pad before I could do anything else.

No more, thanks to the Amazing Life Changing Super Flylady XL Mop! I am able to mop my floors with ease!!Thank you so much to you and your staff for working so diligently to find products that will be helpful around the house, and help us in the process.  I thank  you.  My floors thank you!  My children thank you!!Sincerely,

a very impressed FlyBaby Brenda

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February Habit #17 Take Away the Shame

IMG_5644Dear Friends,

February is Declutter for 15 minutes, and we are going to take full advantage of our time. Monday through Friday this month you will get a new Declutter Mission that follows the Zone we are in. If you have a declutter story or an idea that you have found to be useful please send us an email with MY DECLUTTER STORY in the subject line!

FlyLady Rebecca

February Declutter Mission:

No mission today, take this time to spend with your family and friends!

Hi FlyLady

I think I am more of a FlyFetus because I just started this about 2 weeks ago and have not yet incorporated all of your ideas.  Right now I am decluttering for the 15 minutes a day AND have purchased a feather duster.  My house usually LOOKS clean, as I have had a cleaning girl for almost 20 years.  She did a pretty good job but just increased her rates by 25%.  I don’t know about anyone else, but I have never received a 25% raise!  So I am trying to go without her (YIKES)

My messes are in closets, drawers and anywhere else I can put stuff I don’t want to bother going through and always have good intentions to do so in some mysterious time that never arrives.

I do not want to become my mother.  When  I was growing up she went from a home perfectionist to a total slob, I was told, after I was born.  So I never did see the house immaculate, ever.  I was always embarrassed to have a friend over and would only invite people who had a home as messy or worse than ours.  My clothes always had to be pulled out of laundry baskets because she never folded them.  To be fair to her, she was treated for bi-polar disorder so when she was depressed, literally nothing got done.  She never really taught me how to do much because, I am guessing, she was a stay at home mom and I was an only child.  Too bad for me when I got married.  I didn’t know how to do anything, let alone keep a house.  Enter the cleaning girl because I did not want to have an embarrassing home again.  That’s the story.

So, I found you somehow and am trying to learn some new ways. All I can say is that I have been looking forward to my 15 minute de-clutter this month Monday – Friday.  To date I have gone through 1 whole closet and about 8 drawers.

I went through drawers I hadn’t seen the inside of for 20 years.  Embarrassing, right? It just is where it is and I love your slogan of start where you are, you are not behind.  Takes away so much shame.

I will check in with you in a few months.

Sincerely, Diane ( the Fly-Fetus)

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Clutter Hurts Us

Dear Friends,presidentframed

I just received an email from a member that is a God Breeze.

Here is her message:

This weekend I thanked my husband for putting up with me during my slob days and he said that it was okay, he just slept through it. Here I was, angry at him for sleeping late and not spending time in the family room, but staying in bed watching TV. He was doing it because of ME! Instead of griping about the house, he just ignored it. I hadn’t even noticed that he HAS been getting up earlier and doing more things with us. And we, too, are falling back in love. It is amazing what clutter can do. And it’s amazing what happens when the clutter is not there!

FlyLady Here: I don’t want any email complaining that this fellow should have gotten up to help her. Clutter effects us all even our guys; He didn’t know where to start any more than she did.

Dear Friends,

Clutter hurts our marriages. It effects the way we feel about ourselves and make us sluggish.

When our homes are filled with clutter, we just want to flee. We do everything in our power to not have to look at it.

Here are some things we do.

We hide out in the bed, so we don’t have to see it.

We leave the house for the day and don’t come home until late.

We volunteer for things to keep us out of the house. A busy person, does not have time to clean and declutter. This give you an excuse.

When you walk in the door after a day of running around, facing the clutter, stops you dead in your tracks. Since you don’t know where to start, you do nothing.

Clutter sucks the energy right out of you.

This is why I have urged you to shine your sink. Just seeing one small area that is clean and clutter free, gives you the energy to do more. Thousands of you are finally believing me.

The same way that clutter tends to grow in our hotspots, clutter free areas are contageous too. With just a small area clean, you will begin to clean and clear the areas surrounding your bright spot.

Keep your counters clear as you cook. Don’t let things pile up. Clean up after each dish prepared. Fill your sink with fresh hot soapy water each time it gets dirty and cold. Put out clean dish towels and dish cloths.

When you get an area clean. Declare it a clutter free zone. Use your hot spot preventions twice daily to keep them clear of clutter.

Now let’s discuss what happens to our husbands and children when the house is cluttered.

As you read in the testimonial. Her husband hid in the bedroom. Sleeping late. This was his place of refuge. As a result of him protecting himself from the clutter, she felt abandoned. Their lines of communication had been broken because clutter was pushing them apart. You all know about this.

Look at what happens with your children. With clutter everywhere, they have a problem sitting still. Yes, I sincerely believe that clutter effects our ability to focus. This is a downward spiral.

Clutter keeps us from focusing, this lack of focus contributes to more clutter and chaos and then we get depressed and want to hide, and then just gets worse and we become hermits. All the while our children are seeing our lack of structure and discipline. They do not want to mind us, when we tell them to clean their room. Why should they? Our room is not clean. We are not setting the proper example. You will find that when you set this example, even just in one area, you will begin to see a change in your children. They will be more willing to help, when they see you doing something. Also the children are just wanting attention! When our homes are cluttered, the stress of needing to do something, anything to get them clean, paralyzes us, so we do nothing. Our focus is on the clutter and not on our children.

Can you see this. So our poor children are just wanting us to notice them for a while. So they make an even bigger mess. Any attention even negative, is better than no attention. Then you yell and get upset with yourself for being a bad Mom.

This vicious cycle has got to stop.

Now hear this. You are not a Bad Mom. We have allowed the enemy CLUTTER to invade our territory. It is time to take back our homes and find the peace that I know is there. You will know this too, when you clean one small area of the clutter and keep it clear.

This victory will be yours and your whole family will celebrate.

You will see the difference.

Now go get dressed and put your shoes on, fix your hair and face. Start your day.

Sorry this is so long. But you know God Breezes. He was just long winded this morning.


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What Can Purple Rags Do?

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Our Purple Rags in a Bag are reusable microfiber cloths that can clean and shine most anything in your home and car. You can use them dry, with water, or with a cleaning solution. You use them, wash them, dry them, and use again.

Right now they are on a BOGO. You put on pack in your shopping cart and we will send you two packs.

You will no longer have to buy rolls and rolls of paper towels. You won’t have streaks on your glass or other shiny surfaces or lint on mirrors and counters.

This is one of those Fly Tools that you shouldn’t be without. You will spend a little money now, but you will save in the long run!

FlyBabies have shared some of the ways they use the Purple Rags in a Bag.

Wash windows
Clean mirrors
Defog bathroom mirrors
Clean eye glasses
Shine Stainless Steel appliances
Shine sink and faucets
Streak free wiping of black surfaces – like appliances and water kettles
Clean greasy vent hoods and other surfaces
Shine glass appliance doors and cooled glass cook top
Remove smudges from counter tops
Wipe down countertops and cupboards
Polish pots while drying the outside
Polish silver
Wipe up spills
Clean tops of light fixtures
Clean picture frames- all edges and glass
Detailed dusting
Wipe down Leather furniture
Shine glass shower doors and tile
Swish and swipe – wipe down the counter tops, mirrors and around the toilet
Clean Whiteboards
Clean car windows and mirrors
Defog car windows
Wipe down car interior
Wash body
Exfoliate Face, arms, legs, elbows
Remove Make-up

This is a set of three deluxe microfiber cloths, that each measure 15×15 inches and comes with its very own zippered mesh bag for the washing machine.These rags can be used wet or dry, with just plain water, mild soapy water, or Windex. You can use these for just about anything, especially those times you would normally reach for a paper towel. The cloths are “two-sided.” One side is flat for sensitive surfaces, the other has raised fibers for grabbing dirt, dust and lint.

Washing instructions – machine wash in bag with detergent only – absolutely no fabric softeners – let air dry flat and use again!!!


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Ready and Prepared

Dear FlyLady,

I had to write in as I owe you a big thank you. Last year all of Florida was warned of a terrible hurricane that was sting enough to do us all harm. We needed to make a run for it. My house is a mess, but thanks to your Office in a bag, I was ready to drive away in 30 minutes. I didn’t buy your office, because I had so much stuff at home. I made a copy of yours. And all these years, that where I keep all the important insurance info, health info, anything terrible important. But, because I’m a pack rat, it was stored in a rolling briefcase. Basically it was a rolling office. So, it took me 30 minutes to pack our suitcases, my rolling office, and the dog, and then we left. All along my drive, I was so happy that you had taught me about that office in a bag. I had no worries. If my house was gone when I get back I’d have all my insurance info with me in my car. I was so relieved about that. I did not have to waste time searching for things or emptying a file cabinet i nto my trunk. I had just what we needed. And I have you to thank. So, a big THANK YOU, FLYLADY is well over due. I got home a week later to find minor damages. I am grateful there too. But I can’t express how grateful I am to know that I was ready and prepared if the worst would have happened.

Flybaby Karen

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