Say It For Me

Dear Friends,

This morning for my musing, I have a song running through my head. Occasionally I get a song lyric that I feel is a God Breeze and I have to go where that little wind takes me.

“I’m just a girl that can’t say no.” are the words that keep running through my brain and I’ll bet that you have a tendency to be one of these girls too. We can’t help it. We are the creative ones that can do anything and everyone around you knows it. The trouble with being a yes person is that we are continually giving and eventually we run out of steam and we don’t have the courage to say no!

My calling as I see it; is to motivate you (not teach you how to clean and organize your home) and to show you that you are worth loving. You have been beaten down your whole life by people that have told you that you were lazy, stupid and who knows what else.  Yet when something really needs to be done, who do they call: YOU. Do you want to know why they call you? It is because they know you will drop everything to accomplish your job! Even at the price of your family, your home and worst of all you! You are a sweet giving person that just wants to be appreciated.

When they call you the next time, I want you to think about the price that you have to pay to be appreciated by someone that is preying on you for your kindness and lack of self-love. Now don’t go ballistic on me. You have all been in committees when someone has volunteered you for something. You don’t see them holding up their hand for the job do you! One more little iron in the fire won’t break you and because you are already so active! The reason you are spread so thin is because you have not learned how to protect yourself with the
words, NO!

I have a personal mission statement: To find joy in everything I do. Some things are not joyful and I have learned my personal limitations. You can too.  By setting limits on the number of outside activities that you are involved in.

When I was growing up, my father set a limit on how many nights we could be out of the house a week: 3 nights a week and that included church activities. It is just amazing how that one limitation kept us home and studying. Now days, our children are involved in so many different activities.  Kids get tired too. Think about what is happening to your family in order to expose your children to stuff. Isn’t it better to be a family and do family activities together than
to be pulled in 15 different directions at one time. Slow down and smell the roses for a change.

Learning to say NO is a good start to FLYing! You can do this. We all have had too. Just remember, it will get done if you don’t do it. I promise! Let someone else have a chance to let their light shine! Then you can share with them the FLYing Free exercise of saying NO!

Are you ready to FLY?


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How Do I Keep Up with Home Maintenance

Dear FlyLady,

Do you have any suggestions on how to keep up with our home maintenance? It is so hard to remember when things need to be done.

FlyBaby K.

Dear FlyBaby K,

You are in luck because we have a FREE Home Maintenance Control Journal that you can download. I remember a great testimonial which utilizes the our calendar. Let me find it.


Dear FlyLady,

The testimonial about “no more forgotten registration and inspections” made me want to share one more use for the wonderful FlyLady calendar.

I must admit my DMIL (dear mother-in-law) came up with this idea, so I can’t take too much credit, but I can pass it on to help someone else.

She uses her own calendar to record birthdays and anniversaries and the like, as so many people do. But I noticed one day when I was checking on the anniversary of my DSIL and DBIL and she had some extra notes on her calendar with a date, like 2 yrs…etc.

She marks on her calendar all of the dates of major appliance purchases, repairs, plumbing maintenance, furnace filter changes…you get the idea. I thought this was brilliant.

She (and now I) can easily find out how old the dishwasher is, or when we last had the gutters cleaned and the lint trap in the dryer vacuumed. She told me it’s come in so handy, she just has to flip through 12 pages to find out any number of things about her appliances and it is a great reminder to keep up with those home maintenance chores that can be hard to keep track of. And each year she just sits down for ten minutes and updates the information on the next year’s calendar.

So thank you so much for the great calendar! The squares are large enough to hold all of my daily information and now the little tidbits that would otherwise be forgotten so I can have a healthy home.

Carla, Fluttering in Denver

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Bless The World

Dear FlyLady,

I broke our dust mop by banging it on the side of our house to get the dust off. My DH is BO he asked me to buy a new dust mop.

So, I got yours without hesitation. I will never break the handle because you can take the cloth off to shake outside to bless the world!!! The dust flies off the cloth when you shake it outside. The cloth releases the dust much easier than a traditional dust mop. It is so easy to attach the cloth to use. It is so much better than a traditional dust mop.

Thank you so very much for all the help and encouragement you give every day. Bless you and all those you work with. I can never thank you enough.

FlyBaby in West Islip, New York

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December Habit #9 Positive Side Effects

Dear FlyLady,

The December habit reminded me a funny conversation I recently had with my boyfriend. He came home after work, looked around and asked, “Did you do some cleaning?”.

“No… Ummm, yes. A little bit,” I replied as I have cleared some hot spots that day.

“The floor smells nice.”

“But I didn‘t mop the floor?!” I said, pleasantly surprised.

Then I realized it was a scented candle that filled the whole apartment with a pleasant aroma.

It turns out that pampering myself can have some positive side effects I have never thought of!

FlyBaby in Lithuania

FlyLady Rebecca here: If you have Pampered yourself this month, send us an email to inspire other FlyBabies! Send an email to with PAMPERED in the subject line. I will post it in the December Habit so keep a lookout for your testimonial!

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Are You Part of a Circus Act?

Dear Friends,

I know that you have spent several years, feeling over-worked and frazzled. Most of the time after a tiring day of running around with your head cut off, you can see absolute nothing you have accomplished. I know just how tired you feel. Your day has been spent running around putting out one fire and then the next. Oh and we are so good at dealing with crisis situations. In fact we pride ourselves for being so good under pressure.

We have all seen the juggler that can keep several plates spinning on a several poles at one time. Do you feel like this person most of the time? Running every which way, being forced to jump to keep the plate from hitting the ground. What happens if you stop? You think you would have a lot of broken plates. I have a little secret. We don’t let the plates fall off the poles, we grab them in full spin and set them on the counter.

I know your frustration. Running around putting out fires is not very productive work. Guess why? You are letting the problems set your schedule for the day. We are giving you to tools for you to address these spinning plates once and for all time. The stress level that you have put yourself under is not good for your health or your family.

Each time you are in the midst of spinning those plates, think about why you are forced to juggle them.

1. You didn’t pay a bill on time. So you are running around trying to get it paid before the electric company turns off your power, or the phone company shuts down your service. You have the money in the bank, but you just forgot to pay the bill? Not having the money is another problem, and believe it or not this system will help you with that too.

2. It is 6:00pm and you have no clue what’s for supper. Your children are hungry, so you pile everyone in the car and go for fast food. The guilt levels are rising and money is being spent on food that is not that good for your body. No wonder you can’t lose weight or there is no money to pay the bills.

3. Getting yourself dressed and the family dressed is a pain, because you don’t have clean clothes. They are sitting in the dryer and were not quite dry when the dryer stopped and they have soured. Or they are wadded up in the laundry basket and not fittin’ to wear because of all the wrinkles. Or even worse they are in piles all over the house and have never been washed to start with. You know that sick feeling when your child needs their baseball uniform and it has been at the bottom of the laundry pile, because it just slipped your mind. There were just too many loads to do, so you became overwhelmed and stayed on the computer too long, so you didn’t have to think about it. Guess what. Out of sight, out of mind, does not work for this problem.

4. You need to leave the house for an appointment and you can’t find your car keys. Don’t you just hate that helpless feeling and the more you search, the later you become and the more stressed you feel. That doesn’t even begin to address the fact that you were running late to begin with, because you were having a hard time finding something to wear. Do you see the vicious cycle of spinning plates? One is just about to hit the floor.

Do you want out of this frantic juggling circus act?

Here are the steps?

Listen to us and start by establishing small routines for your morning and evening. Oh and put on your lace up shoes!

As part of your routines, we ask you to think about your day, think about tomorrow and think about next week. This simple act, called planning is going to help you quit spinning your plates. No longer will you be stomping out fires or trying to keep the plates from hitting the floor, you will be in control of your schedule. As you stop the plates from spinning you will find more time for the important things in life. The daily maintenance of your home and yourself becomes automatic.

This will not happen over night. This is why we teach you to establish one habit at a time. As each new habit becomes part of your routine, you are taking that plate off the pole and putting it in the cupboard. Eventually you will be in total control and only have one plate to spin on rare occasions. You will find that this peace is contagious. The more you implement your routines, the easier it is to add new, habits.

This is behavior modification. You are going to have to wean yourself off of the adrenaline rush that you have been getting from the CHAOS. So the next time you feel yourself spinning plates, take 5 minutes and look at what caused this circus act. I’ll bet it can be traced to something you refused to do or didn’t even think about until it was too late.

Are you ready to FLY without spinning Plates,


We have lots of tools to help you get out of this circus act. If you have never seen someone trying to spin plates. Check this out.


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How Does the Holiday Control Journal Work?

Dear FlyLady,

How do I add the Holiday Control Journal into my every day journal or do I just do the Holiday Control Journal and after the holidays go back to the other Control Journal.

Thanks Sarah from Maine

Dear Sweet Sarah,

You are thinking too hard about this. It is not about one or the other. Our Free Holiday Control Journal is an event planner. Your every day Control Journal is a guide to making your home run peacefully. In the Holiday Control Journal, I have tried to think of every question so that you can answer to get ready for your holiday celebration. You still have to do your morning, afternoon, and evening routines.

I keep mine in a Red Office in a Bag. It lives with my cookbooks. No one is going to look for it there. I have used mine for several years. I don’t have to reinvent the wheel each year. In it are my tried and true recipes. Most of which I got from our dear friend Leanne Ely. Check out her recipes and time table for a wonderful Thanksgiving dinner.

Also included in the Free Holiday Control Journal is a gift list and your budget. Each day we send out a holiday mission. It is not too late to get started. Download your Free Holiday Control Journal. You still have time to Cruise Through the Holidays.

We added a new/old tool to our FlyShop. It is a digital download of our FlyLady Control Journal. In the past you could only get the printed version. Now all you have to do is purchase, download, print and put in your sheet protectors.

Spend a little time everyday using your Holiday Control Journal. You will be so happy that you did.


redofficeinabag1I keep my Holiday Control Journal in a Red Office in a Bag.

A little planning can help you be calm this year! Do you remember how you were last year?



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Pamper Mission 12-09-2018

Welcome to a new week and a new Pamper Mission! It’s that time of year when everyone seems to be getting sick! Is the flu going around your house too? When sickness has invaded your house, you don’t just deserve a little pamper time, you NEED it! Pampering yourself and your body is a great way to help you feel just a little bit better. Our pamper mission for today is to give your body the healing that it needs. A bowl of chicken noodle soup by the fire, a hot detox bath, or spending some time just resting in bed with some Lifetime movies. Set aside the time to help yourself relax and feel better. You deserve it!

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Relieve Stress With Great Tools

Dear FlyLady,

I had to e-mail you again about the calendar. I have my sister-in-love staying at my Mom’s house while she is on strong pain killers. I had ordered the Office in a Bag to keep her paperwork in order (love it).

Well my Mom also has been using the calendar since I had given it to her for a Christmas gift last Christmas. My Mom had asked me to put my appointments on there so she would know what I was doing throughout the month. Well when my sister-in-love came to stay at my Mom’s house I just automatically put her appointments on the calendar without thinking anything of it.

I was out running some errands and she called me on my cell phone and thought she had a Dr’s appointment that afternoon. I told her to look on the calendar in the kitchen and she would be able to see when all her appointments were scheduled. She took the cordless phone and went right to the calendar and was pleased to see that all of her appointments were right there where she could see them anytime she needed to know what was happening.

I just wanted to thank you again for such wonderful tools for making our lives easier so we don’t have to try to keep them in our heads. Just write them on the calendar and you don’t have to think about it again. Just remember to look at it before the next day so you know what is on the schedule.

Thank you again Flylady and Crew for all the hard work you do.

So. Cal.

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Teaching my Daughter how to use a Calendar

Dear FlyLady,

I feel so awesome right now that I just have to share this with you. I have been a FlyBaby for about 3-4 years. I am still learning and practicing, but I have come a long, long way. I am also trying to teach my 4 year old daughter to FLY by using the calendar and routines to keep organized.

When she started preschool this year, we immediately put all of her holidays on the calendar. As school goes on, we add any due dates that we learn of to the calendar right away. Love that FlyLady calendar – lots of room for everything! Anyway, we also wrote out a routine for getting ready for preschool (brush hair, brush teeth, do we need to return anything, do we need snowpants, etc.). We printed it and put it in a page protector. Every single day we check the calendar and run through the checklist.

Today, when we arrived at preschool, one mom said they forgot their library book (Thursday is library day) and another mother told her son he would have to wear his boots today because they forgot his tennis shoes. My daughter had her tennis shoes to change into and she had her library book – all because of the calendar and checklist. I thought to myself, “Thank you FlyLady!”

With much gratitude,
FlyBaby Chris in MN


FlyLady here: One of the reasons we don’t know how to use a calendar is because we didn’t see anyone use a calendar. If you want your children to learn responsibility and good calendar habits, they need to see you use them! Our calendar has plenty of room for everything: Menus, library Day, tennis shoe day and Gold Stars!

Have you put off buying a calendar because you thought you could find one to fit your needs? Don’t deprive your children of this skill because you have not found another calendar that is big enough!

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December Habit #8 BabySteps. You Can Do It.

Dear FlyLady,

I have been flying for about a year and a half now. My house can still be messy at times, but I’m keeping up with my morning routine and decluttering, which is half the battle anyway. Yesterday, I was a victim of my stinkin’ thinkin’.

I am trying to start a new career while staying home with my 2 year old son. My unemployment is set to run out this month and we are on a very strict budget in preparation for that. My husband has MS and luckily, his only major symptom right now is extreme fatigue, so I try to let him take it easy on weekends. And thanks to my seven adorable nieces and nephews, plus the rest of my family, as well as the 30 stockings we are stuffing for the Salvation Army, I have a lot of presents all over my once-tidy guest room.

I was sitting in bed feeling sorry for myself when my husband came to check on me. I told him I didn’t think I was strong enough to handle what God had given me. He told me, “Baby steps, honey! You can do it! You just need to take care of yourself.”

I knew he was right, so I thought about things that would make me happy. A hot bath or an at-home pedicure wasn’t gonna cut it. I thought for a few minutes, then it hit me! I LOVE wrapping presents! I really do; I have such feelings of love and caring when I take something I’ve carefully chosen, put it in a box, and cover it in pretty paper. I get into a rhythm and it’s so soothing. Plus, it would help the pile on the guest bed look less crazy.

So I put on a Christmas album and wrapped gifts, and the bad feelings were gone. I woke up today feeling renewed. Wrapping presents (and writing out holiday cards today) may not be everyone’s idea of relaxation, but it is for me!

A Flybaby

FlyLady Rebecca here: If you have Pampered yourself this month, send us an email to inspire other FlyBabies! Send an email to with PAMPERED in the subject line. I will post it in the December Habit so keep a lookout for your testimonial!

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