Positive Reinforcement

Dear FlyLady,

Swish & Swipe is one of the easiest routines for me, and it has made a difference, since a neighbor had locked himself out and asked to use my bathroom!  I swish after my first use of the bathroom in the morning, before I wash my hands.  At the same time, I run my rubber swisher under and over the toilet seat.  After I wash up, I swipe the sink with my used washcloth, which then goes into the laundry.  I swipe the tub after my shower, with my bath mat, which then goes into the laundry.

Whenever I get off track, Swish & Swipe is the quickest and most motivating way for me to start back.  Then I shine my sink, if I didn’t do it the night before!

Thank-you, FlyLady, for your repetitive emails.  Some people complain about them, but for me the repetition reinforces the flywashing and reminds me that I don’t have to compulsively print out and save every email, as I used to do.  Now I know I will get another chance at each of them.

With gratitude from a Virginia Flybaby

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May Habit #24 An Early Retirement

Dear FlyLady,

Five and a half years ago I was diagnosed with CML, a form of Leukemia.

The Leukemia/Lymphoma Society (LLS), and the wonderful/patient people that work there, helped me tremendously. I took an early retirement this past December, and said I was going to use all of the energy that I had been putting into work to exercise more and eat better.

I just signed up to walk a Half Marathon, and to raise money for LLS.  Although the half marathon isn’t until September, the training has already started.

Thanks for your encouragement that I can do anything that I set my mind to do.

Sharon

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Final Touches

Dear Friends,

Sometimes when I sleep things come to me. Robert has a name for Him; the midnight editor. I like to think of them as God Breezes while the crew is resting. This morning I was awaken by today’s morning musing title: Final touches.

As Flybabies we are famous or shall I say infamous because we have never finished anything in our lives. I think that we become discouraged by the fact that laundry is never done and the dishes are an endless proposition. Not to mention the toys that always need picking up. We would love to see the house clean all at once and stay that way, but let’s face it! It ain’t gonna happen! Our perfectionism is what wants to see it all completely finished and if we don’t have time to do it all we just give up! So it continues to pile up and make us feel even worse! This bad feeling radiates though your home by the sound of your yelling disapproving voice! I want you to stop this right now! You set the tone for your home literally. If you are yelling and angry the rest of the family is going to follow your lead. That is enough to drive anyone crazy!

So to distract ourselves from the house that always needs cleaning, we start a project! We think that this is going to make us feel better but what it really does is start another level of guilt. We have such high ideals and we are really good at running with them, but they never get finished. Our problem is that we don’t know how to break a task into doable parts. With our all or nothing thinking; we go buy the necessary items and then we plan and play and never get down to the step by step work that is needed to complete the project.

My Sweetie calls this Project Mode. It is amazing to watch him with this way of thinking. He commits to doing one thing on the project each day. Robert is retired from the court system but when he did work long hours and came home exhausted; he would do just one thing. It may only be 5 minutes, but it is something! One time he built me a wall of shelves that you could lay on by going into project mode.

Every day he celebrates because he has accomplished his goal of doing one thing; he does not beat himself up because he has not finished it YET! He just plods right along, one babystep at a time! Eventually all those babysteps arrive at the end of the project and he will call me downstairs to see his work of art! He actually knows when he has finished. I can’t even imagine that feeling!

I have started so many projects and some of you have been the recipient of them. Before I became FlyLady, I thought I wanted to be a quilter. Oh, I could start them, design them, cut them out, but I hated the sewing part! As a result I had two bags of quilt pieces and no quilt. One day after I became FlyLady, I was writing an essay with the word guilt in it and every time I wrote guilt it came out quilt. At first I laughed, but I guess it was a Freudian slip of the tongue.

Those unfinished quilts were weighing heavy on me. I had to dispose of them and not feel guilty about the money I had spent on the fabric or the time I had wasted on the design or cutting it out. So I hid them under the basement staircase. Hey out of sight out of mind. NOPE it doesn’t work that way, because even the bags they were in reminded me of my “quilty” little secret! There I did it again. Now I have puddles (tears)rolling down my face! I didn’t mean to do that. I got rid of those bags just before Christmas when a dear sweet woman from Ohio took my quilt and guilt away! Those quilt pieces are going to be used to keep someone warm! They are never going to make me feel bad again.

Guilt eats away at our self love! It tells us we are not worthy because we can’t finish anything. Well I am standing up to this guilt once and for all! You are not going to beat me down anymore! I have a higher calling. I may not be the one to make the quilt, but I can motivate you just a little every day to quit procrastinating about your unfinished projects or give them to someone who will. Release the quilt/guilt and find your purpose in life! I finally know what I want to be when I grow up!

We can finish things; we ice cakes and put away laundry! Dishes get washed and toys get picked up! We are always blessing our home with final touches all the time, we just never knew it because we enjoy beating ourselves up!

Are you ready to FLY without the guilt of unfinished projects holding you down? I am not telling you that you have to finish them either! Just let them go! Boogie your way down the runway and you will find yourself FLYing just the same!

{{{HUGS}}} I am so proud of you for letting them go or for finishing them!

FlyLady

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My Bedroom is Where I Struggle Most!

Dear FlyLady,

I’m a new FlyBaby so please forgive me for not thoroughly knowing your system! I notice the task of the day is making our beds every morning. My bedroom is truly were I struggle the most! It’s just the perfect catch all place for everything. It’s just horrible. I hate even going in there and I hate that I sound like a teenager writing this post. After cleaning the house and my toddler’s bedroom all day, the master bedroom is at the very bottom of the list.

So where do I start? When do I start? Please give me some words of wisdom. I would love to have a cozy oasis for my Husband and I to retreat to at the end of the day.

I’m off to go buy some lace up shoes to start next week off on the right foot!

Thank you so much!

Sincerely,
Katy

Dear Katy,

Our bedrooms have long been a major dumping ground for us when company is coming. We grab up our hotspots and toss them on the other side of our bed. Then we lock the door from the inside and that stops anyone from going in there.

These type of actions are a result of not loving ourselves! We put ourselves last. I want your bedroom to be the most peaceful room in your home!

This week we are going to babystep our way to a restful bedroom! Let’s start by clearing out the clutter that is standing in your way of a restful sleep!

Let’s look at your flat surfaces.

  1. Dresser: What is on your dresser top?
  2. Bed: Do you have clothes pile on your bed?
  3. Night Stand: Is your night stand filled up with stuff?
  4. Desk: Do you have a desk in your bedroom? Is it messy?
  5. Exercise Machine: Has it become a Clothes Horse?
  6. Chest of Drawer: Is every drawer filled with clothes you don’t wear?
  7. Floor: Is the floor on the opposite side of you bed piled high with stuff!
  8. Under your bed: Do you store stuff under your bed? Stop this! Declutter
  9. Floors/Carpet: Is your carpet dirty? or the floors dirty?
  10. Closet: Is your closet filled with trash bags of paper?
  11. Bathroom: Is your shower used as a storage unit?

I know where you are stashing items! Let this be your wake up call to make your bedroom a place of peace!

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I Did Not Feel Guilty

Dear FlyLady,

Thanks for all your great ideas! We recently moved cross country from a condo to a large house. I’ve been overwhelmed with unpacking and getting settled. It’s actually been 10 months since we moved and I am still unpacking! Cleaning house was probably my lowest priority. Neither of us really wanted to do it. We both worked full time before we moved and fortunately were able to afford to have someone clean once a month. I didn’t know where to start after we moved.

Your advice has been invaluable, particularly with doing a little each day and not trying to make it perfect. I also was surprised by how much dusting I could get done in two minutes 🙂 Actually, my husband was already taking care of the cat litter boxes and the toilets. He seems to be good at routines, but I’m not. Your emails really help motivate me. Seeing a clean kitchen sink really is a nice way to start the day. I’m getting unpacked one box at a time. If I see something small to clean up, I just do it instead of waiting to have the time to do it perfectly. We recently had house guests for a week. Although I worked really hard for several days to get ready, I didn’t panic. I also didn’t do every single thing I wanted to, but I didn’t feel guilty about it because I tried to be realistic. This made me more relaxed when they got here, and they thought our place looked great anyway!

Thank you,

Motivated in MD!

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May Habit #23 Nice Exercise Bike

Dear FlyLady,

Sometimes it all seems to come together so well!

It is Wednesday, Anti-procrastination Day.

This week’s zone is the master bedroom.

We are Moving in May.

I have been putting off decluttering the pile of clothes in my bedroom which had taken up residence on my “expensive clothes hanger” aka the exercise bike. So I set my timer and in less than 15 minutes I sorted the clothes, packed up those to be donated and took them to the car, hung up the good clothes, and flung the really unusable ones. Whew!

That’s when I realized that I had a really nice exercise bike! Since we are Moving in May, I was able to set my timer and use the next 15 minutes to actually RIDE the bike!

Now I’m enjoying a glass of iced tea with my “clothes rack” decluttered and my body exercised.
Beautiful!

Flying in PA

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Is Your Bedroom Making You Feel Bad?

Dear Friends,

I know how every one of you think, because I am one of you. I have been there and done that. When you do your stash and dash, all the bags of stuff you gather, end up camping out in your room. Under your bed, stashed in the closet, piled on the dresser and chest of drawers, and piled on your bed. Now listen to me.

YOUR BEDROOM IS NOT A GRAVEYARD FOR STUFF THAT HAS NO HOME! If you don’t stop this it is going to be your grave.

This is the room that is the heart of your family and your marriage. It should give you joy when you walk in there and fill your heart with peace. It is where your babies were conceived and you love your husband. If you are single, it is where you snuggle in for the evening with a good book to fall asleep. This is the room that you wake up in and go to sleep in. It is imperative that this room be the cleanest in the house. From this moment on, you are not allowed to pile stuff in this room. Do not fold clothes in this room. (we all know what happens there. We fold them but never put them away)

I have counseled many women about this room. I have found over the years that when this room gets clean the rest of the house falls right into place. It becomes a haven from the chaos in the home; Your hiding place. I have also found, that when this room is clean. I mean no clutter piled up, that most women rest better and have more energy.

I also feel that when we are sick, this room can promote healing or keep us sick. When all that clutter is everywhere, it is so hard to feel peace. Clutter puts guilt on our heads, we beat ourselves up about it, and we make ourselves sick with the stress it puts on our system. Get rid of the clutter and you will see the veil of stress and I believe sickness will leave your body. Guilt is a terrible shadow to live under.

I have a challenge for you. If you have a desk in your bedroom, I want you to find a new home for it. We know what our desks look like, stuff piled to the ceiling, stuff that needs to be done and is calling to us. I am not telling you to do this right this instant. I want you to think about this for a while and come up with a plan.

This week we are going to focus on making your bedroom a haven. Are you ready to FLY with a beautiful room to rest your precious head each night?

FlyLady

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I Want to Keep My New Home Uncluttered Help Me

Dear FlyLady,

I have a question. I just moved into a new place and purged everything down to just the basics.  I don’t want to get into the mess I just got out of so my question is, where do I start?  Do I jump into the detailed cleaning list? And how does that work?  

It looks like a lot. Does it follow the same zones as the flight plans?  Or do I still follow the zone cleaning and weekly blessings? This doesn’t seem to be enough. Not complaining, mind you, really enjoying waking up and coming home to an uncluttered home, but I don’t want it to sneak up on me again. Any advise would be amazing!

Thanks,
Becky

Dear Becky,

Let me start by saying how proud I am of you for purging your clutter before you moved into your new home. This is the key to the ease of establishing simple habits and stringing them into routines. You are going to be fine! We all start by shining our sinks. Keep your sink clean and shiny. I will give you some babysteps to help you with the rest of the house.

Do a simple Before Bed Routine:

  1. Shine sink
  2. Clear hot spots
  3. Check calendar
  4. Get in bed at a decent hour

Next Day do your Morning Routine

  1. Get dressed to lace-up shoes
  2. Swish and Swipe
  3. Empty Dishwasher
  4. Eat Breakfast

Stay focused on weeding out clutter

1. When you bring something new home declutter 2 like items.

2. Spend 15 minutes each day decluttering

 

Do a Weekly Home Blessing

Do the Daily Mission that comes out in the Flight Plan

Don’t get caught up in the trying to do everything at one time. BabySteps to establish simple habits and string them into routines.

The daily missions are geared toward the zones. Don’t worry about the zones either. Rebecca will keep you focused on that area. You don’t have to think if you just do the daily mission.

Please don’t over-think this simple system. Our brains can get in our way! This is our perfectionism. We don’t have to see the top of the staircase to take the first step! ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

FlyLady

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Calm and Organized

Dear FlyLady,

Yesterday I lost the key to my car.  My kids are in Day camp this week as well as some 4H activities, so when I couldn’t find it, I panicked just a bit.  I got my kids to camp in the morning, 20 mins late but they still got to go.  Then I used my FlyLady routine to help me find it, taking it 15 minutes at a time.  By the time my husband got home from work, I still hadn’t found it.  He asked me if I got into bed with the kids the night before for “night night snapchaties.”  I had, and guess where I found my key.  In my Son’s bed, lol!

My routine didn’t help me find my key, but my wildfires have been put out and my house looks fabulous!  It also kept me calm and organized when I was about to freak out!
Thank you FlyLady!

8 years of flying in Colorado,
Jeanie

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May Habit #22 Find Ways To Move

Dear FlyLady,

I have two jobs and unfortunately both are sitting!

I took this challenge to find ways to move even when I don’t have 20 minutes or half an hour to do a “real” workout.

I park further out in the lot, I take the stairs instead of the elevator (and usually arrive faster than those offering to hold the elevator for me…), I use the restrooms on another floor and take the stairs to get there and back, I pace while on the phone when i can, I “readjust” my clothes often to get some squats in, and I drop things often so I have to do more squats or lunges to retrieve them. One of my co-workers suggested jumping jacks and desk push ups.

What other ideas do your amazing FLY community have for those of us who are stuck “sitting down on the job?”

Michelle

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