It’s The Stereotype

Dear FlyLady,testifly

I asked a friend of mine about decluttering and organizing my apartment and she directed me to FlyLady.  I signed up right away and have been reading for a few days.  Yesterday I chose to implement and start doing.  I did a 15 minute decluttering in my kitchen (I think that’s the zone we are in right now) and made sure to shine my sink before bed.  I’ve never done this before.  Perhaps it’s the stereotype of being a guy that told me sinks should be clean anyway, you’re cleaning things in them all the time.  Regardless, I shined the sink and woke up this morning and seeing it, smiled.  I knew I accomplished something.  It may not have been earth shattering, but it was a beginning.

I look forward to following along this journey to a clean space to live in.

FlyGuy Shane

 

 

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March Habit #27 I Survived!

Hi FlyLady and Crew,

I’m writing this testimonial to testi’fly” to the power of having your lace-up shoes on!

I have recently conquered breast cancer, not once, but twice, along with a life-threatening infection that kept me hospitalized in and out for two years! I had a 25% chance of survival, and with God’s grace and many prayers, I survived!  I had many, many complications due to my illness and was very deconditioned (and demoralized) due to the long hospitalizations and many complications.

I’m writing this to tell you how much you helped me through the darkest time in my life.  When I got home from the hospital, I couldn’t even sit up in bed by myself, I was flat on my back!  My husband and youngest son (who still lives with us) took excellent care of me and our home while I was so sick.  I have to tell you that it was very discouraging and I seriously doubted whether I would ever return to full capacity, or even near it!  To say I was depressed and feeling useless is an understatement.

During this time, I also lost both of my parents, very unexpectedly.

I was a flybaby before I got ill and my home looked great and I was feeling great about my home, and getting a lot of peace and satisfaction from a “company ready” home, something I’d never had before while being a single parent working full time with three small children.  All that changed when I found you!

Anyway, back to my situation.  Sorry I’m so long-winded!  I just don’t know how to express my sincere gratitude for all you do for us.  It was so discouraging to be flat in bed, not being able to do anything.  But I kept reading your emails and finally decided to start out, 5 minutes at a time.  Well, let me tell you, those first 5 minutes were exhausting and I had to stop to rest twice-but I did it!

That encouraged me to keep doing more and more.  Slowly, ever so slowly, my strength, balance, and coordination returned and along with it, my happiness and fulfillment!  Now, I can do all the routines and daily missions without batting an eye.  I want to let all those FlyBabies out there know that if I can do it, with all I had to go through, than you can do it too!  Don’t give up!  Keep praying and asking God for help and keep reading those FlyLady emails and testimonials, they help so much!!!!  Thank God for all you do, and may He richly bless you and your crew!

Much love,

Flybaby Mary from New Hampshire

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Six Tips for Stress Free Cooking

Dear Friends,

This week we are making it fun! Starting dinner with a clean kitchen makes it more fun than with a dirty kitchen. Put on some wonderful music and or even an audio book while you are in the kitchen. This can also become a special time for you during the day. This will make your time in the kitchen fun for you.

Cooking your food from scratch is about the only way to save real money.  I  have been cooking much more than usual. With the flu everywhere; I think we are  staying home more. I made a plan and I have been sticking to it. Our freezer was stocked and we have been cooking what we have on hand. The leftovers are being vacuumed sealed and frozen for the one night a week that we eat leftovers.

Many of you don’t want to make a bigger mess in your kitchen. Robert loves it when I am on a cooking frenzy. This means we always have leftovers. These tips work whether you are cooking your family or an army! There are a few little tips I want to toss out to you before you start cooking your head off.

1. Put hot soapy water in your shiny sink before you start to prepare anything. Get out clean dish cloths and towels.

2. Make sure the dishwasher is empty before you start. Hand wash as much as you can and run the dishwasher and empty it before you sit down to eat. This way you will have an empty dishwasher to put the dinner dishes in. Oh and you can run the good china in the dishwasher if you don’t put any dishwasher detergent in it. You can wash your good silver in there too. Just not the hollow handle knives.

3. Now this is a hard one for us, since we love to pretend to multi-task. The truth is we don’t really do it well. You know what happens in your kitchen when you try to do several things at once. Your kitchen looks like a bomb went off in it. Only prepare ONE recipe at a time and when you have put it together; CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF. This means getting things ready to cook not necessary putting them on the stove or in the oven. You can do things a head of time and put them in the refrigerator to wait till its scheduled time to pop in the oven or put on the stove. Leanne’s timeline will help you a lot. I actually make appointments for my oven.

4. And this is the most important tip. Put on good supportive shoes with laces. Don’t try to stand up all day and cook in cutesy shoes. Your legs deserve better than this.

5. After you put together each recipe and you have cleaned up after yourself! I want you to sit down at your table, drink a cup of tea and check things off your list. This is not a request; this is an order to help keep you from looking frazzled for your guests. You need to take breaks and drink your water!

6. Set your table. This way you can have fun with the pretty things.

You can have fun preparing for dinner; if you will just pace yourself and take breaks. It is really just a piece of cake if you will take those babysteps.

Are you ready to FLY through dinnertime?

FlyLady

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Where There is Hope: You’re Not Alone

Dear Friends,

Our homes have always been a source of shame for us. This is why we locked ourselves behind those doors and refused to let anyone into our homes and our lives. We were fearful that someone would find out our dirty little secret. We felt that we were the only ones in the whole wide world that lived this way. I wrote Sink Reflections for you.

This book is dedicated to YOU, who have suffered in silence, thinking that you were the only one in the world who lived in CHAOS!

We no longer have to suffer with our shame. FLYing gives you the tools to deal with your home and yourself. You see you never dreamed that the state of your home was a symptom of your problem and not the problem itself. You have said it thousands of times, “If only I could get the house clean; everything would be OK.” That is not how it works. We have read every self help book ever printed because we were looking for that special tip that would be the saving grace. There is no special tip for house cleaning. It just has to be done. The problem has always been our perfectionism.

As children we were taught by our parents that if you can’t do it right don’t do it all. It was a lesson we took to heart. We were also taught by example that cleaning took a huge block of time. I don’t know many people that have hours to devote to their homes. We all have busy schedules and just want our homes to magically clean themselves.

Well that does not happen unless you have your routines firmly grounded. Even small routines will change your home. When you sandwich your new attitudes along with your routines, and toss in some love; you have the recipe for a wonder comfort zone that you can call home.

In all those self-help books we were given tips for doing things. We all know how to clean; after all we are perfectionist; our biggest problem is moving when we have the chance. For years in our stinking thinking we cleaned for company. We didn’t have time to do a little every day, because we didn’t think it would do any good at all. We felt that we needed a whole day to clean and then we would be so proud of ourselves when we stood back and looked at what we had accomplished. That would only last a few hours because the clean would start to disintegrate around us: All because we didn’t have routines to help us keep it up.

Routines are not the straight jackets that we thought they were. With them we can be even more spontaneous than before because now we can open our doors and not hide. Before in our CHAOS; we had to have lots of notice to get ready for company. It would take day or weeks to get it together and an all night cramming session the day before the company arrived. We looked and felt awful because we were not taking care of ourselves. We were such a joy to be around! NOT!!!

Did you know that your family deserves to be treated like company and you do too? Since it has always taken so long to get ready for company then we just didn’t think we were worth it. Well we are and now you know how to do it without being overwhelmed by the process. The secret to keeping your home in this comfort zone is to pick up after yourself. I asked my clerk one time about this. I had crisis cleaned to get ready for Thanksgiving and I was afraid that it would all fall apart before Thursday and I would be up half the night to get ready for our guest. Since she is Born Organized I interviewed
her about how to keep it together. She kind of chuckled at me and said it is really quite simple, Marla. All you have to do is pick up after yourself. That was a light bulb moment for me. If I get it out, I put it away. Wow it is that simple after all.

That was the day that I started to practice picking up after myself. I would be on watch for those tell-tell words, “I can do that later, I’ll just put it here for a minute till…..” That was my warning sign that I was getting ready to build a hot spot. It is just amazing when one of your flat surfaces is clean; how much that piece of paper stands out. Kind of like a sore thumb.

Half the battle of having a home ready for company all the time is to have your favorite dumping grounds(hot spots) clear. Your house can have dust every where and floors that need doing, but if your hot spots are extinguished, then your home looks clean because the clutter isn’t in your face. I don’t let our home get more 15 minutes worth of messy. We could have a party tonight if we wanted. Fling open our doors and let our friends into our lives.

Could you do this without a panic? It is so peaceful to know that your home is ready and your bathroom is presentable. I want for you what I have and this peace came from building my routines one habit at a time and changing my attitude toward my home.

Are you ready to FLY? A beautiful clean is just a babystep away!

FlyLady
Now is the time for you to take advantage of this great sale!

We are the queens of procrastination. Don’t allow your procrastination to bite you once again. Jump Back on the FlyLady Bandwagon.

Let’s hunker down and get things done! Declutter and Sanitize you home! Grab your purple rags and wipe down your door knobs, light switches, remotes, and flat surfaces.

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Casting Out Negativity

Dear Flylady,
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I just read the testimonial, “Does your household hate Flylady”.  It made me sad as well.  I have been reading your emails for years and find them a great comfort.  I fight depression, anxiety, learning disabilities  and perfectionism everyday. Your system and emails have helped me so much.  As a matter of fact, on my real low days when the negativity sets in and I  say, “Why bother”, I now  learned to say, “Anything is better than nothing”, thanks to you!  For some of us it just takes a long time to get it because we are so “caught up in our old ways”.  My DH thought you were an excellent psychologist until I told him otherwise, lol.  Keep up the good work and the encouragement coming because I for one need you to help me keep my days brightened!

Trying to fly everyday in NC

 

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March Habit #26 For Early Birds

Showering in the Dark May Not be ….

Dear FlyLady,

I have been working on getting my lace up shoes and getting ready for the day when I get up.  I need to leave the house at 5:30 am which means I need to wake up at 4:10 a.m. and I am not a morning person.  I was not used to taking a shower, doing my hair, putting on makeup, and putting on my lace-up shoes.  Doing all of that was overwhelming.  So I did one at a time.  First, I shined my sink  and put my lace-up shoes in January.  In February, I started taking a shower every day before work (I had gotten out of the habit because I take a shower after the day at work).  This month I am putting on my lace-up shoes, showering, and doing my hair.  Next month, I will add putting on make-up.  I used to feel so grungy going to work not showered and unkempt.  I feel much better now that I am taking some time to spruce myself up for the world.

As I said, I am not a morning person.  Getting out of bed feels painful (not literally) some mornings.  When the clocks set were set ahead, it feels like I am getting up at 3:10 am.  This morning was particularly difficult.  I decided not to turn the lights and take my shower in the dark.  I have learned also to shut off the inside saboteur that complains about getting in the shower and just do it without engaging that voice.  Taking the shower in the dark was much less painful and even peaceful for me.  Of course, I need to find a happy medium with maybe a dim light in the bathroom since I can’t find the soap if I drop it LOL.

Just wanted to share my experience in case there are other flybabies out there who are overwhelmed with dress to lace up shoes and hate mornings as much as I do.

Thanks for all you do,

Mary from CT

Dear Friends,

FlyLady here; You may be right about finding a dim light for the bathroom. How about some soap on a rope too. You could use a battery operated tea light. I have a night light that is green that comes on when the light is off. I want you to be safe in the shower. I take my bath before bed and in the morning I just need to wash my hair in the bathroom sink. There are lights that gradually get brighter to wake up with on Amazon.

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When Do We Spring Clean?

GivingUpTheGuiltDear FlyLady,

What about the kind of detailed cleaning like my grandmother used to do in the spring and fall (lots of people still do – it does need to get done at some point, even if infrequently) — washing all the walls and woodwork; stripping and re-finishing floors or detailed cleaning of wood floors; washing the china and crystal from the china cabinet, cleaning the windows/casings on the inside and out, etc? When do we do that, and how do I fit it in to my schedule/control journal?

Flybaby D NB Canada

Dear D,

Just today on Facebook one of our Flybabies was saying that there was no way that she could vacuum with Weekly Home Blessing. She said it would take her over an hour just to vacuum both floors. What I told her is that with Weekly Home Blessing hour we just do the middles. We can do detailed cleaning with our missions in our Daily Flight Plan.

We have to let go of our perfectionism. When our homes were messy we never got around to those things anyway. When your home is clean; you can see what needs to be done and make a plan for those jobs that require painting, stripping, refinishing and carpentry. Even some of these jobs can be done 15 minutes at a time.

There is a chapter in my book, Sink Reflections; “You will never have to Spring Clean again!” We don’t clean like our mother or even our grandmothers any longer. If you will follow our zones and do FlyLady’s missions you can have this same joy too.

Years ago homes were heated with wood or coal. Soot got everywhere. This is why they had to marathon spring clean. Some people spring clean for Passover. Just because we don’t clean our home like they did; does not make us bad housekeepers. After about three months of doing our zone cleaning/FlyLady missions your home will be as clean as your grandmother’s. Here is the good part; we don’t have to be mean to do this. All we have to do is spend a few minutes each day doing FlyLady’s missions.

I have seen lots of yelling and screaming when children were forced into spring cleaning. Nothing was ever done to suit the mother. Do you want your children to remember cleaning this way. There is no wonder we have a dislike of cleaning. Let go of your perfectionism and follow our zones; You will never have to spring clean again.

I love the misconception of spring cleaning; because a lot of people call me for an interview! It is so much fun to tell their listeners or readers that we don’t have to clean like our mothers did.

Now is the time for you to take advantage of this great sale!

We are the queens of procrastination. Don’t allow your procrastination to bite you once again. Jump Back on the FlyLady Bandwagon.

Let’s hunker down and get things done! Declutter and Sanitize you home! Grab your purple rags and wipe down your door knobs, light switches, remotes, and flat surfaces.

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Are You Part of a Circus Act?

Dear Friends,

I know that you have spent several years, feeling over-worked and frazzled. Most of the time after a tiring day of running around with your head cut off, you can see absolute nothing you have accomplished. I know just how tired you feel. Your day has been spent running around putting out one fire and then the next. Oh and we are so good at dealing with crisis situations. In fact we pride ourselves for being so good under pressure.

We have all seen the juggler that can keep several plates spinning on a several poles at one time. Do you feel like this person most of the time? Running every which way, being forced to jump to keep the plate from hitting the ground. What happens if you stop? You think you would have a lot of broken plates. I have a little secret. We don’t let the plates fall off the poles, we grab them in full spin and set them on the counter.

I know your frustration. Running around putting out fires is not very productive work. Guess why? You are letting the problems set your schedule for the day. We are giving you to tools for you to address these spinning plates once and for all time. The stress level that you have put yourself under is not good for your health or your family.

Each time you are in the midst of spinning those plates, think about why you are forced to juggle them.

1. You didn’t pay a bill on time. So you are running around trying to get it paid before the electric company turns off your power, or the phone company shuts down your service. You have the money in the bank, but you just forgot to pay the bill? Not having the money is another problem, and believe it or not this system will help you with that too.

2. It is 6:00pm and you have no clue what’s for supper. Your children are hungry, so you pile everyone in the car and go for fast food. The guilt levels are rising and money is being spent on food that is not that good for your body. No wonder you can’t lose weight or there is no money to pay the bills.

3. Getting yourself dressed and the family dressed is a pain, because you don’t have clean clothes. They are sitting in the dryer and were not quite dry when the dryer stopped and they have soured. Or they are wadded up in the laundry basket and not fittin’ to wear because of all the wrinkles. Or even worse they are in piles all over the house and have never been washed to start with. You know that sick feeling when your child needs their baseball uniform and it has been at the bottom of the laundry pile, because it just slipped your mind. There were just too many loads to do, so you became overwhelmed and stayed on the computer too long, so you didn’t have to think about it. Guess what. Out of sight, out of mind, does not work for this problem.

4. You need to leave the house for an appointment and you can’t find your car keys. Don’t you just hate that helpless feeling and the more you search, the later you become and the more stressed you feel. That doesn’t even begin to address the fact that you were running late to begin with, because you were having a hard time finding something to wear. Do you see the vicious cycle of spinning plates? One is just about to hit the floor.

Do you want out of this frantic juggling circus act?

Here are the steps?

Listen to us and start by establishing small routines for your morning and evening. Oh and put on your lace up shoes!

As part of your routines, we ask you to think about your day, think about tomorrow and think about next week. This simple act, called planning is going to help you quit spinning your plates. No longer will you be stomping out fires or trying to keep the plates from hitting the floor, you will be in control of your schedule. As you stop the plates from spinning you will find more time for the important things in life. The daily maintenance of your home and yourself becomes automatic.

This will not happen over night. This is why we teach you to establish one habit at a time. As each new habit becomes part of your routine, you are taking that plate off the pole and putting it in the cupboard. Eventually you will be in total control and only have one plate to spin on rare occasions. You will find that this peace is contagious. The more you implement your routines, the easier it is to add new, habits.

This is behavior modification. You are going to have to wean yourself off of the adrenaline rush that you have been getting from the CHAOS. So the next time you feel yourself spinning plates, take 5 minutes and look at what caused this circus act. I’ll bet it can be traced to something you refused to do or didn’t even think about until it was too late.

Are you ready to FLY without spinning Plates,

FlyLady

We have lots of tools to help you get out of this circus act. If you have never seen someone trying to spin plates. Check this out.

 

Now is the time for you to take advantage of this great sale!

We are the queens of procrastination. Don’t allow your procrastination to bite you once again. Jump Back on the FlyLady Bandwagon.

Let’s hunker down and get things done! Declutter and Sanitize you home! Grab your purple rags and wipe down your door knobs, light switches, remotes, and flat surfaces.

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Such A FlyLady Thing To Say

My Dear FlyLady,

Recently, I was shopping with my adult daughter who hates to shop, and she said the most profound FlyLady thing. I was waffling over a pretty sweater, but wondering where I would wear it when she looked at me and said, “Only buy it if you can see yourself wanting to pull it out of the closet every day to wear it.” I put it back on the rack!

My first thought was, “that is such a FlyLady thought and she doesn’t even know it.” Her words have stuck with me through cleaning out all sorts of things while preparing to move. If I don’t see myself wanting to use something all the time, I let it go. Some things you need to keep for special purposes, but you use the same things over and over. It has made me clean out things that I use and don’t like for the things I love.

I am also back in my closet with those words in my brain. Out went several pairs of shoes for special occasions because they hurt and I don’t love them!  Out are going clothes I thought I had gone through but realize that I don’t want to wear them. I finally got the message you send about loving your things!  Tell everyone that sometimes it takes awhile for things to sink in. I have been with you a long time and I finally got this one!

A FlyBaby

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March Habit #25 My Greatest Discovery

Dear FlyLady,

I have been attempting to follow your system since 2006.  My perfectionism wanted me to run before I could walk, so I would crisis clean and then be exhausted.  This led to me stopping and starting more times more times than I can remember, which did nothing to improve my underlying depression and sense of failure.

I would read about other systems that encouraged me to declutter everything in a day and then obsess about folding things neatly.  This gave me one beautifully organized drawer but the rest of the house was in a complete muddle, again leaving me feeling completely overwhelmed.

Then just after Christmas I decided enough was enough.  I began to watch the 31 Baby Steps videos on YouTube by Diane Denmark, and then the penny dropped. I realized the process was more important than the end result, and this gave me a peace that I had not felt before.

I shine my sink, make my bed, swish and swipe, do 5 minute room rescues and 2 minute hot spots.  I am doing my laundry each day and am working on decluttering in small manageable chunks.  My greatest discovery has been wearing my lace up shoes(I had always resisted this before, afraid of spoiling my carpets), so now I am ready to work, less likely to climb back into bed feeling defeated, and starting to Finally Love Myself.

Thank you

Fly baby Ella,  England.

Dear Friends,

CHAOS to Clean is available on Kindle. You could spend a few minutes today reading it on your Kindle App. Download it for FREE if you have Kindle Unlimited.

We love to hear your testimonials and motivate others with the success stories! If you have a success story please send it to FlyLady@flylady.net with I HAVE MY SHOES ON in the subject line.

FlyLady Rebecca

Let’s hunker down and get things done! Declutter and Sanitize your home! Grab your purple rags and wipe down your door knobs, light switches, remotes, and flat surfaces.

Stay busy and keep calm! We are Flying though this emergency!

All our rags are on sale!

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