Purple Puddles

Hi FlyLady and crew,

I have been on and off the FlyLady bandwagon several times over the past few years. First of all a little history, a few years ago I was injured on the job as a nursing assistant had to wait 4 years for them to do surgery on my back only to come out in as much pain as I went into surgery with. The upside I am not in a wheelchair which according to doctors I would have been if I didn’t have the surgery.  I have really struggled on and off trying to get my house out of CHAOS because of my injury and subsequent nerve damage and the 70 pounds I gained since I got hurt. I do really well for a few days or even few weeks and then fall off because I am down for several days for pushing myself too hard.

I bought Hidden Treasures thinking well maybe I would understand the FlyLady system better because of the reviews. Wow what a book!  In the first few pages I was in purple puddles because that was me and that was my house and my kids! Thinking to myself I cannot believe that there are other people out there struggling with it like I am and seeing it in black and white through these wonderful characters. I know it is fiction but that woman could be me!! Could I find the peace those characters found in following the FlyLady system? Can I adapt it to my limitations? After reading this wonderful book I know that eventually I will find peace 15 minutes at a time. I just have to adapt it to my limitations and not try to do it all in one day and be down for a week to get up and do it all over again. I know FlyLady says this over and over but somehow seeing a character in a book do it slowly and consistently made it finally click in my head that I CAN DO IT!

THANK YOU so much for this wonderful book that is me in the beginning and hopefully Lord willing me in the end of the story.

I even broke down and ordered the TENS unit that helps my pain enough that I can actually do it 15 minutes at a time. You are all Gods sweet messengers who have shown me in this book that it can be done one thing at a time 15 minutes at a time.

Thank you and God Bless the authors of this book and FlyLady and crew.

Fluttering Flybaby in Eastern NC

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April Habit #29 Joyful Little Two-Year-Old

Dear FlyLady,

I have been enjoying my DS, who just turned two, announcing as soon as I walk into his room in the morning “I make my bed!”, then he does the rounds – “I make Caleb’s bed!”, then, “I make Yael’s bed!”

He is sooo very proud of himself! Even my father-in-law clearly understood his joyful little two-year-old announcement!

Thanks for putting a smile on my face!!

Blessings from PA

Posted in Habit of the Month

Finding Comfort In Routines

Dearest FlyLady,*Purple puddle warning*

I have just gone through one of the hardest things a person can ever experience.  I lost my husband of 17 years on 6/6/14.  I had been attempting to fly for a while but my fluttering seemed to be hit or miss most of the time.  After my husband’s death, it really took a nosedive.  I started to really sink deeper and deeper into chaos, to the point that my sister was really concerned about me.  I have to admit, I was a bit concerned about me too.  What was I going to do after the memorial service and when everyone left?I had an AHA moment on the morning of the memorial.

I was sitting at the table with my coffee finishing up small details of the service.    Then it hit me.  I needed to get back into my routines.  I thought of them as a much needed comfort during this time.  I needed to start with shining my sink.  That wouldn’t solve all my problems but it would be a start.  I went back and read the “How to” I zeroed in on a couple things.   I needed to have a smile on my face first thing in the morning.  I also needed the big hug, no you couldn’t be there to give me the hug in person but just the having something for my hands to do and to accomplish something IS the much needed hug and pat on the back.  I also didn’t need judgment or the “finger in my face.”

Thank you for always encouraging all of us to just jump in where we are, that we are not behind.The other thing that hit me, the big AHA moment was that we can do anything for 15 minutes.  It seems so simple but I applied it to that I can get through these next 15 minutes without my loving husband.  Then it would get a bit easier with each additional 15 minutes.  Please note that this does not mean that I do not grieve or miss him terribly but just that I CAN survive and go on.  I can and will go on because we have 3 teenage boys still at home that deserve a home free of clutter and chaos.  They deserve a mom that can FLY.Again, thank you for always being there and for the gentle nudges and encouragement.Adrienne in Texas

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You Don’t Have To Live This Way

Dear Friends,

Our procrastination is fueled by our perfectionism. We get caught in the trap of thinking we don’t have time to do it right. This is when we do nothing. Eventually the procrastination bites us hard and our homes become overwhelming. Isn’t this why you searched the internet looking for an answer to your messy house?

We give you to the tools but the most important part is the attitude adjustment you manifest in your head. You read what we write for you and use those messages to eliminate your perfectionism. It doesn’t happen overnight. Your home did not become cluttered in a day and it is not ever going to be that ideal of “Perfect”!

Perfect is a myth you only see in pictures of magazines. It is a word that I despise because of what it does to my FlyBabies. We so want to get it all together and feel good about our homes. We just never dreamed that in the process of getting our homes clean we would find ourselves.

Our perfectionism piggy-backed with procrastination put us in a coma. We don’t know how to make a decision so it is just easier to do nothing. Sometimes we just want someone to tell us where to start and what to do. I think this is why our message has touched so many people. We give you a starting place and tell you that you can do anything for 15 minutes.

In the time it takes to talk ourselves out of doing something we could have the job done. You know the dialog. It has become invisible to our thinking processes because we have played it out over and over each time something needs to be done. We hear ourselves saying we don’t have time. Those words are the first red flag for us. If you would set your timer at the moment those words cross your lips or enter your mind you would feel so much better. No more procrastinating. I don’t have time has turned into do it now!

Do it now is doing something! Sometimes it is just putting away one item but it is something! Celebrate your Go Me accomplishments. They don’t have to be perfect or even finished to be a reason to throw your arms up in the air and yell Go ME! Getting up is better than being paralyzed in a chair saying I don’t have time.

It is time to stop procrastinating! You can do it! Just do something! You will feel better!

Are you ready to FLY?

FlyLady

Have you been procrastinating about putting together your simple Control Journal? This is a tool that gives you place to start. It is just a binder with your routines written down. It is your list to get you started. If your perfectionism has stopped you from writing down our routines stop it right now! get a piece of paper and do it now!

For those of you who need help; I put a Control Journal together for you!

Fitness Tracker in Black and White
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We should be moving EVERYDAY, and not just in May. Here’s a fitness tracker to help motivate you, and keep you motivated ALL DAY AND NIGHT. No, we don’t mean that you have to continue to move all night; we mean that this efficient tracker not only monitors your daily physical activity, but it also helps keep you fit by monitoring your sleep.

Set personal goals and view your history with mobile and online stats. Track daily activity including steps, calories burned, distance and activity time. Track sleep quality each night and even use it as your alarm to start your day.

You can sync to SmartPhone, Tablet and PC with an ultra low power Bluetooth 4.0.
Sweat, rain and splash resistant with a rechargeable lithium ion battery.
Here’s what’s included with your FlyLady Fitness Tracker:
  • Activity Tracker
  • Wristband
  • USB Charging Cradle
  • User Manual
(You will need to download the J-Style Health App; complete instructions on how to do this are included with each FlyLady Fitness Tracker)

 

Posted in Morning Musing

How Does FlyLady Work?

Dear FlyLady,

I have been procrastinating because I don’t understand how it all works together. What is a Basic Weekly Plan, Morning Routines and Before Bed Routines. I don’t know why I procrastinate.

Overwhelmed FlyBaby

Dear Friends,

Our perfectionism is what causes us to Procrastinate.

Stop. Take 15 minutes to write down those little buggers, you know, those tasks that you need to get done, want to get done, but NOT RIGHT NOW done. Yep, those tasks. Get a pen and lined paper and don’t forget that timer. Set it for 15 minutes and write down everything that comes to mind that you sure would like to get done. Now I’m not talking paint the outside of the house done…I mean sew on a button, trim the dogs nails, re-pot a plant, those tasks. When the 15 minutes are done, look at all you have to choose from. Choose at least one a day to work on this week. On your mark, get set, GO FLY.

The question has been asked more than once; what is a Basic Weekly Plan? Let me start by explaining how the idea of a Basic Weekly Plan came about. On New Year’s Day of 1999, I was determined to “Get Organized”. In the process of trying to figure out why Pam and Peggy’s Card File System had not ever worked for me for very long; I started sorting all my cards into piles: Daily, weekly, monthly and seasonally.

The daily cards became my morning, afternoon and evening routines. My monthly cards were broken down into the five zones in our home. Seasonal cards were posted on our calendar. Then there was that pile of everything that needed to be done each week.

This is when I decided to assign a topic to each day of the week. And I divided the pile between the weekdays. Let’s start with Sunday.

Sunday is Renew Your Spirit Day: Take care of me
Monday is Weekly Home Blessing Day: Bless my home and laundry
Tuesday is My Free Day: Lunch with friends
Wednesday is Anti-Procrastination Day
Thursday is Errand Day: Grocery Day and appointments
Friday is Clean out the Car Day, Date Night and Do Bookkeeping
Saturday is Family Fun day; Spend time with family

Make a list of everything that you need to do each week. Set up your very own  Basic Weekly Plan or use ours.

Are you ready to FLY with a Basic Weekly Plan guiding your way?

FlyLady

If you need more help with a Basic Weekly Plan, there is a worksheet in our Control Journal. Don’t let your perfectionism stand in the way of peace you deserve.

You can get your Control Journal with our Office in a Bag. We have four colors: Red Black, Blue, and Purple!

Fitness Tracker in Black and Whitefitnesshikeimage

We should be moving EVERYDAY, and not just in May. Here’s a fitness tracker to help motivate you, and keep you motivated ALL DAY AND NIGHT. No, we don’t mean that you have to continue to move all night; we mean that this efficient tracker not only monitors your daily physical activity, but it also helps keep you fit by monitoring your sleep.

Set personal goals and view your history with mobile and online stats. Track daily activity including steps, calories burned, distance and activity time. Track sleep quality each night and even use it as your alarm to start your day.

You can sync to SmartPhone, Tablet and PC with an ultra low power Bluetooth 4.0.
Sweat, rain and splash resistant with a rechargeable lithium ion battery.
Here’s what’s included with your FlyLady Fitness Tracker:
  • Activity Tracker
  • Wristband
  • USB Charging Cradle
  • User Manual
(You will need to download the J-Style Health App; complete instructions on how to do this are included with each FlyLady Fitness Tracker)

 

Posted in Ask FlyLady

Everyone Is Fine

Dear FlyLady,

My sister Kathy’s dryer caught on fire. My niece, Tia, noticed there was smoke coming from the dryer. My sister called 911 right away, got her daughter and the animals out. She went back in with the fire extinguisher by then flames were shooting out. She tried putting out the fire then went out for some air and then came back in and tried putting it out more and then the smoke was too bad. p.s. Don’t be as brave as my sister!

The good news is that everyone is fine and they have good house insurance. It looks like the outside structure is fine, but the inside has to be completely gutted and remodeled. This is the most devastating thing they’ve gone through.

Definitely if you see smoke coming from your dryer–call 911 immediately. If you don’t already have the Dryer Cleaning kit — get one. I wouldn’t want anyone to go through what my sister and her family are going through.

Sincerely,

Kristie

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April Habit #28 I Would Struggle

Dear FlyLady,

Making my bed every morning is a habit I’ve had my whole life, thanks to my mother, who expected it to be made every day. (Thank you, Mom!)

I remember when I was a teenager (maybe even younger), and I would struggle to make it. Then I invented a way to make it much easier for me to make my bed every day, and life became so much easier.

My problem was that I had a full-size bed and to have the covers (top sheet and blankets) centered and tucking them in on the far side of my bed was way too hard. I was just a little girl and that mattress was heavy! I hated doing it. Something had to change. Here’s what I figured out to do instead: I started putting the sheets and blankets on so that they only touched the wall but didn’t get tucked in. I tucked them all in on the outside edge where I got in.

In the morning, I would just throw the covers over so they met the wall, retucked in any parts that had come out, and I was done. I also had a bedspread, but most of the time it was folded and at the bottom of my bed, so I didn’t use it every day, which was fine with Mom.

Anyhow, it made such a big difference in my life that I thought I’d share it with others. (Now, if only I could find a way to make it easier for me to wear my shoes…I stubbed my toe really badly last night and am still limping today. Baby Steps.)

Thanks for your ongoing encouragement…
Karen

Posted in Habit of the Month

Born Skeptic

Hello FlyLady,

I’ve been fluttering along for a while now. I’ve been in and out, never really followed the missions (how could I when there was SOOO much to get done!!!). Then the emails stopped coming in digest form. UGH! More email.

Well, it’s been a blessing in disguise. I started reading them. And the message that FINALLY got through was “You’re not behind”. Start where you are. What? You mean I don’t have to get it all done on Saturday morning before I pack the boys off to the baseball field for the rest of the day? You mean I can do a little at a time? What? No – this must be a mistake, I thought.

Then I became overwhelmed with so many emails. I felt I had to read them all. And then like magic came the email that said – “It’s okay to delete the ones you haven’t read”. What? Not read them? with trepidation, I deleted the FlyLady emails I hadn’t read. The roof didn’t cave in either!! I did it! I didn’t have to catch up anymore!! You gave me permission to start where I was. Hmmm, there might be something to this.

So I started. I decluttered my bathroom. All those old perfumes bottles that I might wear someday (even though I have ONE essential oil combo that I wear religiously and LOVE). Nevermind that my DD gave it to me for Christmas. I don’t use it. Get rid of it. One grocery bag later and I had a counter. Wow. So I cleaned it. Double wow – I don’t know when the last time was that I removed all the makeup gunk. I had to move too many things to do it. I don’t swish and swipe daily, but I do it more often than I ever used to – at least 3 times a week. And I just got my purple rags – I hang one from the towel rod and just swipe the mirror after my shower – takes 30 seconds (probably not even that long) and GOODBYE toothpaste spots!! No cleanser just the steam on the mirror.

I’m getting there – I now have a dresser top free of clutter and a hope chest at the end of my bed with a nice comforter for my kitties to sleep instead of on my feet. I’ve been making my bed daily (cuz I bought a new comforter like you suggested – needed one anyway!) and I’m tackling my other issues 15 minutes at a time. Thank you FlyLady for reminding us we are not behind!!! Just get started folks!!

And an added bonus – my boys ask daily what their FlyLady Kids Challenge is. WHOO HOO!!! They are loving this 15 minutes at a time deal too!! No more Saturdays stuck cleaning their rooms!!!

Jennifer

Posted in Uncategorized

Congratulations You’re a CEO

Dear Friends,

Now for the God Breeze! What if we ran our homes like 5 Star Hotels? The funny part is we already do a lot of it!  So let’s look at our homes in comparison to a hotel!

– We have bedrooms and bathrooms.
– We provide a place for people to sleep comfortably and  get ready for their day.
– We have a laundry service.
– The dining room is always open.
– The concierge is ready to plan any excursion.
– The limousine service is at their beckon call.
– The lounge has nice reading material and comfortable places to relax.

So as you can plainly see our hotels already offer the best! You are the Chief Executive of this hotel; it is your responsibility to keep it running! But how do you do this?

Every business has to know where their money is being spent and to keep track of their (ugly word here)Budget. Do you know what a budget really is? It is a projection of what you have coming in and how much you think it will take to operate your hotel. That doesn’t mean you spend everything that comes in either. When we continually do this we eventually go bankrupt. You can only rob Peter to pay Paul just so many times.

At this point our hotels are struggling to stay afloat in a sea of problems. As we fix one problem another one rears its ugly head. We are working on the cleaning problems. We have established routines for getting things done on a daily basis. The kitchen is coming together too. Menus are posted and purchasing lists are ready for the buyer. But this is only part of keep our hotel running.

When we have financial problems the stress hurts everyone involved with the operation. We have to learn to find a balance in our hotel and look objectively at how much we have coming in and how much is going out. Some people would automatically say we need to charge more for a room in our hotel! WRONG! Higher rates mean you could run off customers. More is not always the key to having enough to operate.

Every year when I was county commissioner, we were faced with trying times for our budget. We had to get creative in order to save jobs and not raise taxes. Our income was being cut by forces outside of our control. What we did have control over, we did not want to abuse by raising our rates. When we look at our homes from this prospective this would be like going to your boss and demanding a raise and getting it! Now that is not going to happen. We have to learn to run our little hotel operation with what we have. In other words live within our means.

In order to address these issues we had to start with a zero based budget. Now I don’t quite understand this, but I think it means start with nothing. Each department head wrote down what they needed to run their department; from paperclips to payroll! In other words we started fresh! I love it; we do this every morning when we get up! Just because we spent it last year doesn’t mean we can spend it this year or this month or today. Money is like spilled milk. Once it is gone it is gone; all we really have control over is what we have now and what we plan to do with it.

Last week someone asked me what my greatest asset was! Without hesitation I replied me! Do you want to know why? It is because of my “can do” attitude that keeps me learning and doing. You want to know something else! You have that attitude too! Knowledge is the answer! Why do you think you keep looking for those answers! Why do you think you found us? You were searching for answers to problems. You know deep down inside that the knowledge is out there, but having the knowledge and using it are two different things. We are going to teach you how to use what you know.

Our whole lives we have been told! You are woman and you can do any and everything! The problem with this type of brainwashing is it made us go after what we wanted(we wanted it all), but it didn’t teach us how to keep what we have and prioritize what is important to us. This is what I want help you with.

As SHEs we are smart savvy people! Our greatest asset is ourselves. When you take care of you in even the simplest ways you are taking care of your hotel! I know you equate this with being selfish! But it is not! In order to keep your hotel running smoothly and efficiently you have to be happy and healthy!

SHEs fall into all types of people, some of us are better at certain things. I like to call them savants SHEs! There are lots of our member that don’t have mountains of laundry or dishes piled high, but their clutter is over taking their homes and they can’t let go. There are some that are good with their finances while others that can’t find their bills. We have members that can literally run a 5 Star Hotel but have trouble finding things, just not at the office! At the office our members look totally put together! They just Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome. Their dirty little secret about their home has been kept from their friends and co-workers and I’ll bet their financial dirty little secret has been hidden from their loved ones. Do you want to know why?

FEAR! FEAR OF REJECTION! Could that be why we spend ourselves into countless credit card debt; Living beyond our means? Fear of not being worthy because of a flaw. Fear of not looking like we are worth something. Fear of what other people think! Fear of not living up to our ideals of what life really is? Do you see the stinking thinking in all of these attitudes? Are you trying to keeping up with the neighbors. The FEAR of not knowing is worse than actually knowing. When you know your enemy you can work out a battle plan!

Now back to your assets! You have them and we are going to utilize them. Even our SHEness is an asset! Think about this! We love to plan and scheme and scheme and plan; oh and let’s not forget our love of making lists, but we are not really good at implementing these plans.

Are you ready let knowledge give you the power to FLY?

FlyLady

Your Control JourUVPnal is your guide to running your 5 Star Hotel!

Here are all the tools you need to keep your home sparkling!

 

 

 

 

Fitness Tracker in Black and Whitefitnesshikeimage

We should be moving EVERYDAY, and not just in May. Here’s a fitness tracker to help motivate you, and keep you motivated ALL DAY AND NIGHT. No, we don’t mean that you have to continue to move all night; we mean that this efficient tracker not only monitors your daily physical activity, but it also helps keep you fit by monitoring your sleep.

Set personal goals and view your history with mobile and online stats. Track daily activity including steps, calories burned, distance and activity time. Track sleep quality each night and even use it as your alarm to start your day.

You can sync to SmartPhone, Tablet and PC with an ultra low power Bluetooth 4.0.
Sweat, rain and splash resistant with a rechargeable lithium ion battery.
Here’s what’s included with your FlyLady Fitness Tracker:
  • Activity Tracker
  • Wristband
  • USB Charging Cradle
  • User Manual
(You will need to download the J-Style Health App; complete instructions on how to do this are included with each FlyLady Fitness Tracker)
Posted in Morning Musing

Why Do We Have To Declutter?

Dear FlyLady,

You are always telling us to Declutter! I don’t know how! Where do I start? I am so overwhelmed! Please tell me what to do and why?

Overwhelmed FlyBaby

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Dear Overwhelmed FlyBaby,

The reason we want you to declutter is that routines are so much harder to do with clutter standing in your way. Clutter has invaded all our your storage places. In order to put things away that are not clutter; you have to clear out your drawers, cabinets, and closets. My goal this new year is to go through our home and declutter again; 15 minutes at a time. Yes you heard me right! Clutter has a way of sneaking back into your home. We have to stay on top of it. This is why it is so important to declutter 15 minutes each day.

Sometimes we have to be kind to ourselves during the process. We may not be ready to let go of certain things just yet. That is OK. One day you will be ready. Clutter comes off in layers; kind of like peeling an onion. The stronger you get the easier decluttering is going to be.

You can do this. We have a whole section on our website that teaches you how. The main thing to remember is don’t do too much at one time; babysteps!

We put together a Declutter Kit to make it fun! Put on some rocking music and start flinging!

You really can do this!

FlyLady

 

How to Declutter

Taking 15 minutes each day to declutter an area, using the 27-Fling Boogie, and clearing your hotspots are among some of the most powerful tools you can use to create a more peaceful home. Remember: You cannot organize clutter – you can only organize the things you love!

I’ve included my tips on how to declutter. Put your home on a diet. If this is difficult for you, try reading one of my favorite books, “Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui” by Karen Kingston.

1. When to Declutter: Decide how often you are going to declutter a zone. Do a little every day – use a timer. But be warned – this can become compulsive! Once you get started you will want to clean like a banshee! Don’t burn yourself out! Only do small amount at a time. The house did not get dirty overnight and it will not get clean overnight. When you set the timer you can only do two sessions at a time. This goal may seem unattainable right now, but you can do it in little pieces. In a couple of months, the whole house will be decluttered.

2. Decluttering Equipment: You will need garbage bags, boxes, magic markers, and a dust rag. Label the boxes “Give Away”, “Throw Away”, and “Put Away”. Line the “Throw Away” box with a plastic garbage bag.

3. Set your timer: for 15 minutes. Just do the job as fast as you can and do not pull out more stuff than you can put away in that length of time. This means just one drawer, one closet (or even one shelf in one closet), one magazine rack, or digging under just the furniture in the zone. Not all of them at once!

4. Start at the entrance to the room: Then, work your way around the room clockwise. Do not skip a spot. Whatever happens to be next, just do it.

5. Declutter Away! With boxes at your feet and dust rag in your waistband, start off by cleaning out and getting rid of the things that do not belong in this room. Put garbage in the “Throw Away” box, donations in the “Give Away” box, and stuff that goes somewhere else in the “Put Away” box. Don’t worry that you do not have a place for everything right now. By the time you finish you will. That’s a promise from FlyLady!

6. What to declutter? Things to ask yourself as you get rid of your clutter:

* Do I love this item?
* Have I used it in the past year?
* Is it really garbage?
* Do I have another one that is better?
* Should I really keep two?
* Does it have sentimental value that causes me to love it?
* Or does it give me guilt and make me sad when I see the item?

Cleanse this room of everything that does not make you SMILE.

7. Sing this song: “Please release me, let me go” as sung from the stuff’s point of view. It needs to be loved by someone and if you don’t love it – GET RID OF IT! Another song to sing is from Frozen. Let It Go.

8. Get rid of the garbage! When the “Throw Away” box gets full, pull out the garbage bag, close it, and put it in the trash can, the pickup truck, or wherever you keep your garbage. Put a new garbage bag in the “Throw Away” box and keep on Flying until the timer goes off.

9. Donations: When the “Give Away” box gets full, seal it off, and put it in your car. The next time you are out, you can donate to the area thrift shop. Do not save your clutter for a yard or garage sale, you will be blessed by giving it away. The value can be deducted on your income tax. Remember you are trying to get rid of clutter – not relocate it somewhere else in your home. Now, grab another box, label it “Give Away”, and get back to work.

10. “Put Away” Stuff: When the “Put Away” box gets full, take the box in your arms and run around the house (good thing you have shoes on – right?) and put the items in the room where they belong. If they have a place, put them there, if not put them in the room where they logically belong. By the time you have finished you will have a place for everything and everything will be in it’s place.

11. Timer Goes Off: When the timer goes off, you have to put away all the boxes, but first you have to empty them all. Go as fast as you can.

Posted in Uncategorized

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