February Habit #15 Our Senior Years

I’m back!  I had been backsliding for several years.  I needed motivation to help me reclaim the home I cherish.  My DH and I are in our senior years.  For years we have been on the merry-go-round of life with family dramas…marriages, divorces, births, deaths, & health issues etc. while trying to stay active and involved in our church and community.

Through the years I have managed to acquire lots of “stuff”.  Consequently, I’ve been trying to “organize clutter” with the hope of using, managing, or passing it down to the kids one day.  My awakening moment came when we had to empty my in-law’s house when they passed away.

I used the lessons I learned from that experience to step back and re-evaluate what we are holding on to and WHY.  Long story short, I looked up my friend FlyLady for moral support.  I was thrilled to see how it’s grown and expanded!   My DH ordered Sink Reflections for me at my request, and the rest is history!  I didn’t wait for the book to arrive.  I began doing the 27 Fling Boogie, the 15 minute Declutter and of course shine my sink and swish & swipe after I got dressed and tied my shoes!

It’s just been one week, but already our house is looking and feeling better than it’s looked for years!  To celebrate my return, I went out and bought a bouquet of carnations and put 27 of them in a vase on my “empty”, shiny dining room table!  The rest of the flowers are in various rooms throughout the house, reminding me of how beautiful our home is becoming.  Thank you, FLY LADY for being there when I needed you….again!

Linda,  from, Richmond, VA.

FlyLady Rebecca here: Do you have a Decluttering Testimonial? Let us know, and send an email with MY CLUTTER STORY in the subject line.

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Greatest Love of All

Dear Friends,

In 2012 Whitney Houston passed away.  I have spent today listening to her music; one song says so much to me; The Greatest Love of All! We will always love her voice and how we feel when we hear her sing. There is a line in this song that touches my heart; Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all. Finally Loving Yourself is this gift!

How do you learn to love yourself? What is Love anyway? To us it may be something that we have never had. Several years ago when I was in an abusive relationship; all I wanted was to feel loved. It didn’t matter if I was loved; I just wanted to feel like I was. What I finally came to realize was I was never going to feel this way by his actions. I needed to find other ways to feel loved.

I started to meditate and in order to stay focused on my breathing I would repeat with each breath in “I LOVE” and the breath out “MYSELF”! Even though I didn’t believe it yet; I still did it! I would meditate 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. This became a way for me to slow my brain down; after a while the words that I said to myself began to manifest themselves into actions.

When something would not feel right; I would ask myself if doing that was loving myself. Now I have taken those simple words and turned them into my mission statement for my life. To find joy in everything I do.

This is one of the greatest gifts I ever gave myself. It keeps me from perpetuating the abuse by showing me that I am loved. Love is an action word. It is the result of some little deed that makes us feel good or special. I want you to take a few minutes right now and write down a list of things that you can do for yourself to put into action the word love.

Most of mine have become part of my daily routine.

1. Getting dressed to shoes, hair and face
2. Loving Movement
3. Drinking my water
4. Eating Breakfast
5. Eating snacks
6. Taking my vitamins
7. Taking a bubble bath
8. Removing my makeup at night
9. Laying out my clothes
10. Listening to beautiful music in my home and car
11. Going to bed at a decent hour.

These things sound familiar don’t they? Isn’t it strange that something so simple can be the basis for our FlyLady way of loving ourselves. If I can teach you to do this then believe it or not your home will come together and you will be FLYing!

Pampering is not a chore that can be procrastinated. When you don’t take care of yourself it is one of the first signs that you could be depressed. If you don’t take care of you; who will?

You do have time and when you hear yourself say, “I don’t have time!” then I want you stop right there and do just 5 minutes. You are going to feel better and before you know it you will be FLYing. Hey we may have to fake it till we make it but isn’t that what practice really is! It will become a habit that will continue to bless you and your family. After all! If Momma ain’t happy; ain’t nobody happy!

Take 5 minutes and write down your list of things you can do for yourself. Then I want you to cut them up and put them in a jar and each day I want you to pull one out and surprise yourself with a good deed.

Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all!

FlyLady

We are discontinuing our XL Mop. This mop is quite large. The XL Mop Head is 6 inches wide and 15.5 inches long. There are spring-loaded clamps on either side of the XL Mop Head, as well as a line of Velcro on either side, to hold the XL Chenille Mop Cloth firmly in place.

I don’t even know why it has the white clamps because the Velcro holds the XL Large Mop Cloth quite well!

Right now our Dishtowels are half price at $5.97.

We have some great tools to help you get your home and car ship shape! You might even have a little fun in the process. If you make it fun it will get done. Use Coupon Code Clutter862 to save on items that are not already on deep discounts.

Our Complete Cleaning System is everything you need to keep your home shining!

The Speedy Carpet Sweepa is my favorite tool for 2 Minute Challenge. Get yours ordered today because they are flying out the door. They are only $21.95. Regularly priced at $29.95.

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Make it All Go Away

Dear FlyLady,

I have been working on my paper piles and I am a new FlyBaby and it seems as if even though I am throwing papers away, it seems like I am moving one pile to another area of the room and then move again. What can I do to make it all just go away???

Teresa in So Cal

Dear Teresa,

I will answer your question with what another FlyBaby did to help herself. We have to contain the papers. Then the best thing we can do is use a shredder to dispose of them. I think the reason we hold on to our paper clutter is because we are so scared of identity theft. I just told Robert I would like one. We have a real fireplace and a few handfuls of shredded paper that can’t be recycled(our name on it) would help to start my day fires.

What you have to do to make it go away is make a decision? Can this be thrown away! If it can; then do it. A shredder will help; you can’t take it back and put it on a pile once it is shredded.

FlyLady

Here is the testimonial.

Dear FlyLady:

I have been flying off and on for about two years and I am back on track and am seeing results.

I recently purchased the decluttering kit and have been amazed at how useful it has been for me. I had six boxes in my bedroom from when I moved. I just couldn’t get myself to unpack them because they contained mostly paper that needed filing.

Using the “Throw Away” and “Put Away” bags I was able to get through these boxes this past weekend. Part of my block to doing this task was the amount that needed to be done, but doing it “fifteen minutes at a time” made it mentally so much more manageable and having the bags meant I spent most of the time sorting. I still have some work to do with the papers, they are now in two piles, “to file” and “to open,” but I know I will be able to tackle them fifteen minutes at a time.

Thank you so much for all you do! It was so nice to see those empty boxes and have space open up in my bedroom. It made the whole room look different.

Flying in VA

FlyLady here: We have to quit making more piles for ourselves and contain our paper clutter. You can’t organize clutter! You have to get rid of it, one handful and 15 minutes at a time! Your Declutter Kit and Timer will help you stay focused!

Join us as we declutter a box a day for the next 40 days! I am working on my books!

We are discontinuing our XL Mop. This mop is quite large. The XL Mop Head is 6 inches wide and 15.5 inches long. There are spring-loaded clamps on either side of the XL Mop Head, as well as a line of Velcro on either side, to hold the XL Chenille Mop Cloth firmly in place.

I don’t even know why it has the white clamps because the Velcro holds the XL Large Mop Cloth quite well!

Right now our Dishtowels are half price at $5.97.

We have some great tools to help you get your home and car ship shape! You might even have a little fun in the process. If you make it fun it will get done. Use Coupon Code Clutter862 to save on items that are not already on deep discounts.

Our Complete Cleaning System is everything you need to keep your home shining!

The Speedy Carpet Sweepa is my favorite tool for 2 Minute Challenge. Get yours ordered today because they are flying out the door. They are only $21.95. Regularly priced at $29.95.

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I Am Still Progressing

Hi.

I rejoined flylady a few weeks ago.  Even if I don’t follow the plan to a T, I find I am still progressing.  I’ve managed to declutter so many areas in our house that desperately needed it, and now that those areas look so much better I am motivated to continue.  Even if I don’t actually shine the sink, just making sure all the dishes are washed and the sink is empty is a step for me.  I find the decluttering mentality helpful at work too.  I managed to organize so many folders of documents I’ve accumulated over the years, deleting what I could, and just filing whatever else I’m not sure if I need in a folder marked ‘archive’.  This way they are at least out of the way.

The testimonials are so helpful in keeping up the motivation.

Thank you.
AK – NYC

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February Habit #14 Life Has Changed

Dear FlyLady,

Thank you so much for making your wonderful program available online and for helping us chaotic people get organized for free!

I found out about you in October 2015, one month after giving birth to my first child. All my life I hated tidying, cleaning, laundry, all those things that keep piling up. We definitely had the Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome (Chaos) in our house most of the time and I would have to frantically clean an entire day or two before having company. Needless to say, the thought of having surprise visitors was my worst nightmare!!

Life has changed since having my DD. I now can’t drop everything for two days before having guests. And we have been having visitors very frequently these past five months. I decided to give your baby steps a shot, started doing my routines daily, decluttered 15 minutes a day etc.. And lo and behold! it worked!!!

Flying has been a solution for many of my problems. I don’t even know where to begin. The one load of laundry per day thing: genius! It takes such little time to get that one load folded and put away. No more Mt. Washmore! I love how the swish and swipe and the shiny sink, the morning and evening routines, how these habits help me have a peaceful home! I love going into my kitchen in the morning, at 7 am, an hour before my almost 5 month old wakes up, and taking in the peace and quiet of this beautiful clean space. I took your advice, and always take a moment to smile at the sight of my clean kitchen right then. When did this for the first time it felt really awkward and I realized how little I think of myself and my accomplishments. I’m very down to earth and I just don’t smile for no reason when I’m by myself.(especially not in the morning – I’m not a morning person LOL)

It felt weird in my face, but good in my heart. I feel like I’m slowly changing from the grumpy nagging martyr to a content and pleasant mother and wife. How cool is that?!

Another thing you said proved to be true: My husband started picking up after himself WAY more than before. Clutter attracts clutter, and now that there’s no more clutter, dishes in the sink, piles of letters and paper work, my husband started to put things away without me asking! He saw my morning routine post-it, and has started to pick one or two items from the list and does them without being asked while I nurse our little one in the morning.

I love your program! I actually stopped half way through the baby steps because it just clicked, things were happening naturally, and I felt that I was ready to fly. I love how I don’t have to think, how I just follow routines and flight plans and missions and somehow with no more than 1 hour a day spent on housework, the house it peaceful and clean. I love the home blessing hour and how it’s not about being perfect! I love timing myself and being amazed at how much I got done in 15 minutes! I could go on and on and on. Thank you so so much! You have made a huge difference in our lives!

LL, Flying in Germany

FlyLady Rebecca here: Do you have a Decluttering Testimonial? Let us know, and send an email with MY CLUTTER STORY in the subject line.

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Waiting to Get Started?

Dear Friends,

In many of your messages I have noticed that you can’t wait to get our calendar, duster, book, and timer so you can get started. If you are ordering this stuff because you think that this is the magic pill you need to take to get you started then you have not understood anything I have been telling you. Here is why.

You already have every magic potion known to man sitting in your cupboards. Cleaning supplies just don’t do the trick. It is not about the right chemical for the job. It is about actually getting up and doing something instead of waiting till you have all your magic pills. If the truth be told I use very little cleaners anymore; just a little window cleaner and soap. This means I have very little cleaning clutter in my cabinets.

Now let’s look at the shelf of “get organized” books you already have. What good did they do you? You bought them, you may have even read them, but here they sit staring back at you. Now you have gone out and purchased yet another book that is going to be the magic spell to get your home organized.

When I wrote Sink Reflections, it was for those folks who don’t have access to the internet. It was to put the system into a simple little book. I never dreamed that my online members would buy it for themselves. I thought you might buy it for a friend and share this message with your non-computer neighbors. You were already reaching out to help people and needed a tool to get the message across. It was because of your continuous requests for permission to pass this on and share with your Sunday school classes and women’s groups that my book came to life. If you have internet access and email, you can get every bit of this information for free. It will always be free or Robert and I will shut down the website. We are committed to having a website that is kind of like a text book. If you have not checked out the information on our pages, please do.

The emails are also an important part of helping you to establish your routines. They are the behavior modification and attitude adjusting essays that you need to change your life; One email at a time. The whole system is there, just for your convenience. We also use Facebook as a place for you to share your accomplishments with others as we play games to get things done.

We have put together some wonderful tools for you to use, but that is all they are! They are not the magic spell, wand or potion that is going to get your home in order. They are tools to help motivate you and make blessing your home fun!

Over the years I have purchased every planner and calendar ever printed to help keep me from missing appointments. Nothing ever worked until I established a routine for actually looking at the calendar and using it. The same thing goes for the feather duster. It will just stay in the closet until it rots if you don’t take the duster out and use it. We all have timers on our ovens and microwaves. We may even have egg timers stuck in some drawer someplace. Any timer will work, you just have to set it and get into the habit of using it.

So you see if you are waiting till you get your FlyLady order to get started, you have missed the point. You have the power in you right now. These tools are not going to be that magic solution to your CHAOS. If you are planning on purchasing one of our tools for this reason, then please wait till you have your routines established to go along with it. Then you can purchase them as a reward. The tools will not help you to do this. They will only be more clutter if you don’t actually use them. I don’t want them to make you feel guilty because you have purchased yet another magic pill to get rid of the CHAOS. It is up to you to follow our messages and begin with babysteps to build your routines. Your home did not get dirty overnight and it is not going to get clean in a day. One other thing to remember if you are waiting for your FlyLady Order to come before you get started, then this is just another excuse to procrastinate. It is that ugly old perfectionism once again, telling you that you can’t get started until you have all the right stuff! Well the right stuff inside of you. Now go shine your sink!

I want for you what I have; Peace and this peace came for letting go of the perfect fix for my problems and getting down to the basis of my CHAOS; My lack of getting up and moving. We all know how to clean; I don’t have to tell any of you how to do it. We just need to be motivated. This is my job as I see it; to teach you to build your routines and do your babysteps.

Are you ready to FLY now that you don’t need the magic pill to get you started?

FlyLady

We are discontinuing our XL Mop. This mop is quite large. The XL Mop Head is 6 inches wide and 15.5 inches long. There are spring-loaded clamps on either side of the XL Mop Head, as well as a line of Velcro on either side, to hold the XL Chenille Mop Cloth firmly in place.

I don’t even know why it has the white clamps because the Velcro holds the XL Large Mop Cloth quite well!

Right now our Dishtowels are half price at $5.97.

We have some great tools to help you get your home and car ship shape! You might even have a little fun in the process. If you make it fun it will get done. Use Coupon Code Clutter862 to save on items that are not already on deep discounts.

Our Complete Cleaning System is everything you need to keep your home shining!

The Speedy Carpet Sweepa is my favorite tool for 2 Minute Challenge. Get yours ordered today because they are flying out the door. They are only $21.95. Regularly priced at $29.95.

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To Sweep or To Mop

Hi FlyLady and Crew,

I’ve been FlyWashed! I love the Rubba Scrubba and want more of your products!! What is the difference between mopping with the FlyLady Mop and using the Rubba Sweepa?

Thanks so much!

Flybaby LaLa

Dear LaLa,

The biggest difference that I feel is the speed. You can move really fast with the micro-fiber head or the chenille mop cloth. The rubba sweepa does a great job on carpet and throw rugs. We use it all the time for rugs at our doors.

For my daily mop of my floors, we have a new mop cloth. We only have hardwood floors. With two dogs and two cats we have lots of paw prints and dust bunnies. I can do my floors in the time it takes for my coffee to brew! I even did a video of me speeding through my floors with my new video. This was made last summer. It shows how you can skip the sweeping step and go straight to mopping. LOL

The beauty of the Chenille mop cloth is that it rinses so well. It has these little fingers that grab the dirt and dust. Then all you have to do rinse it and go again. After you are through with your floors you can throw it in the washing machine.

MopHeadComparisonSo to answer your question; I use my Rubba Sweepa for my throw rugs and my chenille mop cloth for my floors. Check out our newest half price package; The XL Mop Pack. We have a larger mop head!

As I am writing this I did my floors for my weekly home blessing.

I also use my rubba sweepa for my porches and when it snows; it comes into its own! It is great on my nonslip tile on my bathroom floor!

MopXLframedHaving my floor looking nice helps me release stress. I am always just a few minutes away from my home being company ready!

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Interesting Comments

Dear Flylady,

Thank you so much for your encouragement, routines, and tips. They have made such a difference in my home and in my stress level. However, I have gotten some interesting comments. 🙂

My sister, who is quite neat, was over and noticed the difference. I think she almost asked if I had a new refrigerator. It was probably all the wiping down of surfaces that I had been doing during Home Blessing Hour.

My mom came over shortly after a “wipe down your front door mission” and wondered if I had painted the door.

My aunt (who I’m pretty sure is one of those Born Organized people), was visiting and asked if I had widened my kitchen. Of course, I hadn’t, but I’m guessing decluttering the counters had made the difference.

Personally, having routines and feeling like I actually have some control over my house has been wonderful.

15 minutes of decluttering is truly powerful. If a room or area is bugging me, I know if I just go at it for 15 minutes it will look worlds better.

I love the Weekly Home Blessing Hour. Knowing that in an hour my house will look fresh is such a great feeling.

Waking up to an empty sink is so wonderful! Sometimes I walk into my house or into my kitchen and almost wonder with surprise who has been here and cleaned- me!

Thank you so much. I started with the Baby Steps almost a year ago, and you have changed my life. Thank you!

Sincerely,
A Very Grateful Flybaby

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February Habit #13 First Time Ever

Dear FlyLady,

I have been decluttering for 16 years now. My DH and I buy emotionally. I have found that the ONLY time I can declutter is when my DH is at work. And always anything not used by him for a year or more.

With my kids I do clothes as they come through the laundry. This week the 4 if them (4,6,7,&9 yrs old) went through their rooms and decluttered daily for the first time ever.

I now have books and toys to donate and no way to get it to the van. The snow has buried it and the shovel. Lol.  I have found decluttering to be a daily job but I know if i let it go for a time i get overwhelming.

Baby steps…everyday!

Flying in Wyoming

FlyLady Rebecca here: Do you have a Decluttering Testimonial? Let us know, and send an email with MY CLUTTER STORY in the subject line.

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You Don’t Have to Live This Way

Dear Friends,

Our procrastination is fueled by our perfectionism. We get caught in the trap of thinking we don’t have time to do it right. This is when we do nothing. Eventually the procrastination bites us hard and our homes become overwhelming. Isn’t this why you searched the internet looking for an answer to your messy house?

We give you to the tools but the most important part is the attitude adjustment you manifest in your head. You read what we write for you and use those messages to eliminate your perfectionism. It doesn’t happen overnight. Your home did not become cluttered in a day and it is not ever going to be that ideal of “Perfect”!

Perfect is a myth you only see in pictures of magazines. It is a word that I despise because of what it does to my FlyBabies. We so want to get it all together and feel good about our homes. We just never dreamed that in the process of getting our homes clean we would find ourselves.

Our perfectionism piggy-backed with procrastination put us in a coma. We don’t know how to make a decision so it is just easier to do nothing. Sometimes we just want someone to tell us where to start and what to do. I think this is why our message has touched so many people. We give you a starting place and tell you that you can do anything for 15 minutes.

In the time it takes to talk ourselves out of doing something we could have the job done. You know the dialog. It has become invisible to our thinking processes because we have played it out over and over each time something needs to be done. We hear ourselves saying we don’t have time. Those words are the first red flag for us. If you would set your timer at the moment those words cross your lips or enter your mind you would feel so much better. No more procrastinating. I don’t have time has turned into do it now!

Do it now is doing something! Sometimes it is just putting away one item but it is something! Sometimes it is decluttering one item; one bag or one box. Celebrate your Go Me accomplishments. They don’t have to be perfect or even finished to be a reason to throw your arms up in the air and yell Go ME! Getting up is better than being paralyzed in a chair saying I don’t have time.

It is time to stop procrastinating! This week is for all of the procrastinators who have not been decluttering. You can do it! Just do something! You will feel better! We are getting rid of 40 Boxes in 40 Days!

Are you ready to FLY free of the clutter?

FlyLady

We are discontinuing our XL Mop. This mop is quite large. The XL Mop Head is 6 inches wide and 15.5 inches long. There are spring-loaded clamps on either side of the XL Mop Head, as well as a line of Velcro on either side, to hold the XL Chenille Mop Cloth firmly in place.

I don’t even know why it has the white clamps because the Velcro holds the XL Large Mop Cloth quite well!

Right now our Dishtowels are half price at $5.97.

We have some great tools to help you get your home and car ship shape! You might even have a little fun in the process. If you make it fun it will get done. Use Coupon Code Clutter862 to save on items that are not already on deep discounts.

Our Complete Cleaning System is everything you need to keep your home shining!

The Speedy Carpet Sweepa is my favorite tool for 2 Minute Challenge. Get yours ordered today because they are flying out the door. They are only $21.95. Regular priced at $29.95.

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