FLYing Together

Dear FlyLady,

I am an 18 year old Homeschooler who is about to graduate in August. I love being a FlyBaby!!!

My DM (Dear Mom), who is a single parent that Homeschooled Me and my two older siblings, started trying to FLY in 1999, but with Fibromyalgia she has hit quite a few speed bumps. I love my DM very much and seeing that your system works for so many others, I decided to try and help her FLY.

Last Christmas, my 27 yr old DS (dear Sister) and I saved up and got her the control journal, CD,  Body clutter book timer, and the  towels. She loved everything, but even with all that, I could tell she was still struggling, (fatigue and chronic pain really get to her).

Here I come, FlyBaby Em…. I kicked my franny into gear and rose to the challenge! I’ve been using the timer like a crazy lady and the CD is what keeps me going.  I have a lot of difficulty waking up to an alarm in the morning ( I roll over turn it off and instantly fall back asleep ) so I put the CD in my CD player and put the remote on top of my alarm clock. When my alarm goes off, I now roll over, turn it off, click my CD player on and put it on track 3 ( my fav’s are # 2 & 3, although I love them all ). That CD has helped me to establish waking up at 9a on days I’m off and 6a on days I have to work!

Now, instead of getting up as late as 2 or 3p on days I’m off, I get up at 9a,make my bed, use the bathroom ( brush teeth, wash face, swish and swipe ), feed my kitten, get dressed ALL THE WAY TO MY SHOES!! I put out hot spots in the Kitchen & living room ( as well as do my chores ), make breakfast/coffee, check my reminder’s while I’m eating, clean up from breakfast, tackle my schoolwork ( three-15 minute blocks per subject!! ), clean up the zone & do a little decluttering.

Then I have the rest of the day to be as flexible as I love to be!!! I’m still trying to get my DS (dear Sister) to FLY, but I think that if I keep FLYing, she will hopefully follow.  Since I’ve been establishing my routines, my Mom has been a lot less stressed out and is able to have more *me time*….. We glide through zones together. She say’s I’m cute when I get into my “clean the zone” mood, lol, no whining here!!
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I just want to say a HUGE THANK YOU for helping me, help my mom FLY and also, helping me to overcome the fear of turning 18 by giving me the confidence to take charge in cleaning and cooking, with a positive attitude.  I am really looking forward to having my own house and family when I get older and it’s not so intimidating now! Thanks again and again and again, lol…. I LOVE TO FLY!!!!!!!

Love,
FlyBaby in VA

P. S. I’m a Dance Teacher/Choreographer that teaches Creative Movement, Artistic Development, Classical Ballet, Theatre Dance, Tap, Jazz, Modern, Hip-Hop, Ballroom and Lyrical. I have adapted “15 minutes” into my classes! It works sooo well! Thank you for turning not only my life around, but also my career!

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FlyLady Here: Can we agree that this is a Purple Puddle Moment?  The love in this young girl and her family is so beautiful and pure.  What a family!  I am so proud of these strong and courageous women!  They are truly FLYing!!!

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It’s Anti-Procrastination Day

Dryer Lint KitDear Friends,

Today is Anti-Procrastination Day! What have you been putting off?

How many times a day do you allow your perfectionism to paralyze you! You know exactly what I am talking about. You hear that nasty little voice in your head all the time. I don’t have time right now. YOU DON’T HAVE TIME FOR WHAT? To do it RIGHT! To do it like your momma did!

We are not good judges of time! In our heads we think emptying the dishwasher will take hours when it only takes 3 minutes!

Our perfectionism/procrastination also hurts us in other ways. We keep putting off going to the doctor because we don’t have time! We don’t place an order for something we know will help us and then all of a sudden it is gone and we start to beat ourselves up over our procrastination again.

I live by the Do it Now Principle! When something needs to be done and if it is not done then you will feel bad; this is when I do it! Think about putting a fresh roll of toilet paper in the bathroom. We only think of it when we are in there. Guess who usually gets left with an empty roll. YOU! Your procrastination has hurt you again.

Our minds are going 90 miles an hour. We can think of more things to do in 5 minutes than we can do in a lifetime. Let’s channel some of that power into action by Doing It Now. When you find yourself using this principle more often you are going to surprise yourself! This is not getting sidetracked! It is staying focused and accomplishing something so we don’t have to beat ourselves up later!

Have you been putting something off? One day soon we will run out of our calendars and there you will be begging for one and beating yourself up because of your procrastination. You do have time; if you will just do what needs to be done and don’t put it off another day! Just think, this will put an end to those nasty voices in your head!

There are many of you who are procrastinating about shining your sink! This is the habit that changed my life! Please give it a try! It won’t take that long! I know you think I am crazy when your house is a mess and you have a to do list longer than your arm and I am telling you to shine your sink. Apply the Do It Now principle and see how good you will feel! Send me an email and tell me what you accomplished today in honor of Anti-Procrastination Day! It can something small or big, it does not matter! Don’t let perfectionism
get in the way of Do It Now!

FlyLady

What have you been putting off? Cleaning your lint from your dryer vent? Don’t wait another day! Cleaning it will make your dryer run more efficiently. Go find your Dryer Lint Kit that you ordered months ago and use it.

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Where Do You Store Your Rubba Swisha

Dear FlyLady,

Where do you store the Rubba Swisha? I have toilet brushes that sit in a stand…don’t know what I’d do with a dripping, dirty toilet brush. I have both theRubba Sweepa and the original Rubba Scrubba and love them both.

FlyBaby A

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My Dear Friends,

Swishing and swiping is one of our foundation habits that keep our bathrooms always company ready. We love to see things in pairs; Peanut Butter and Jelly, Cake and Ice Cream, Ham and Eggs, Jack and Jill, and Swish and Swipe!

We already have a great pair for our Swish and Swipe; our Purple Rags in a Bag and our purple Rubba Swisha. As for a holder to put it in, we decided against it. We all have clutter hanging around that will keep your brush from dripping on the floor. In 5 minutes, I ran through my house and found 7 or 8 things that would hold the Rubba Swisha.

For many years I have suggested that an efficient way to keep your toilet clean is to get a vase from underneath your sink and place your toilet bowl brush in that. I also recommended to keep a solution of one part shampoo, bubble bath, soap, or body wash that you don’t like in the container with one part water. This is just enough soap to give your toilet a good swish. It is the act of swishing that keeps stuff from growing in there.

Now let me ask you this question. Why would we want to add to the weight of shipping this great tool, not to mention the price of it? For $6.95 you get a great tool and don’t have to purchase more clutter. You also get to recycle something that has been gathering dust (your old vase from under the sink).
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For years I have used a crock that you put your kitchen utensils in. This holds just enough soapy water to cover the brush. The soapy solution will not allow mold to grow in the container.

In my 5 minute search, I found a flower pot with no hole in the bottom, a fish bowl, another utensil holder, an empty sugar container, Clorox Wipe container, a piece of pottery and a beautiful vase my sister gave me for Christmas. I’ll bet you can find many more things than that. My son said his old holder fit the newRubba Swisha.

So let go of your paired perfectionism and go green in a purple kind of way! Find something hiding in your clutter to turn into your Rubba Swisha holder. You are creative! Check under your kitchen sink!

FlyLady

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Where Are My Daily Reminders and Zone Missions

launchpadDear FlyLady,

I used to get daily reminders of which part of a room to do that day. I don’t seem to be getting them that way now. How can I get these daily reminders?

Judy

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Dear Judy,

You are talking about our daily Zone Missions. We do send them out every day and they are in our daily Flight Plan. They go out the night before.

They are also posted in our Sneak Peek for the Week that goes out each Sunday.

The Daily Flight Plan also has all our reminders in it.

I hope this helps you!

FlyLady

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Is Your Bedroom a Junk Yard?

Making Your BedDear Friends,

Are you still trying to sleep in the midst of a junk yard? You know exactly what I am talking about! Your bedroom! Over time it has become the graveyard for things that have no home. It is time for you to purge these things from your bedroom. I want your bedroom to be a haven for you each evening when you put your head on your pillow.

Clutter in your room is not conducive to peaceful rest. If you are still having a hard time tossing out this stuff, then go to our website and check out all the messages from your sisters. They have shared with us their UFOs from your bedroom: Ugly, funny and old items that were stealing their peace. There is probably a pretty good chance that you will identify with at least one of those UFOs! If you do, then go toss it now. Just one item! You can do it!

Some of you have been obsessing about our zones. Quit. If you try to do too much too fast you will get tired and burn-out! Our goal is to set up routines and stick to them. NOT A SPOTLESS HOUSE. This will be the result of our goal.

Zone 4 is our master bedrooms, bath and closet. If you don’t have a bath, consider yourself lucky.

I want you to ask yourself a few questions about this room in your home.

1. Do you sleep here?
2. Do you want the room to be restful and inviting?
3. Do you want do get up in the night and not bump into things.
4. Do you have trouble closing your Drawers?
5. Can you find the clothes you are looking for?
6. Do things fall off the closet shelf and hit you?
7. Are you afraid to look under the bed?
8. Are clothes piled to the ceiling on the chair in the corner?
9. Is your cedar chest filled with stuff you will never wear again?
10. Can you walk between the bed and the wall?
11. Do you have to crawl into bed from the foot of the bed?
12. Is stuff piled so high on the dressers and nightstands that you forgot what they look like?
13. Are the Cobwebs becoming moth collectors?
14. Are the dust bunnies reproducing in the corners and under the bed?
15. Can you see out your bedroom windows?
16. Can you close your closet door?
17. Have the spiders decided to winter over behind your bed?
18. If you open the drapes does the room fog up from the dust in them?
19. Do you know what color your carpet really is?

Now that you have asked yourself these questions, I can hear you saying, where do I start?

First I want you to realize that this is an on-going process. You may or you may not get the whole room cleaned. That is not our objective. We are focusing on our bedroom this week and any thing you do in this room will be an improvement over the way it was last week. Each month we put this room first in our minds. All I am asking is that you do a little bit each day; fifteen minutes, thirty minutes, I don’t care. You can even do the 27 FLING Boogie. Just do something every day. 

Progress Not Perfection
FlyLady

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I Am Free to FLY

Finally Love YourselfDear FlyLady and Crew,

OMGosh – where do I begin??? I’m sitting here eating the best Salmon Gazpacho soup (from LeAnne’s menu mailer) which I made (in less than 15 min) and I have to write you. A transformation has happened in my life – in less than 2 weeks and it’s all because of you!!!! I’m so excited I can hardly contain myself. How can a life get soooo turned around in less than 14 days? FlyLady and LeAnne, that’s how.

I have been a member, a FlyBaby, since April 2007. I have fluttered since then. I bought so many of your items, and nothing did “it”. Don’t get me wrong – they are fantastic – you truly have been blessed with the team and the knowledge of how to make great items and offer them to us. But still, nothing did “it”. I’ve had really good days and I’ve had moments of joy – but in the last 2 weeks, well, now I’m FLYing (Finally Loving Myself) – I’ve found the secret, and it’s no secret. You tell us EVERYDAY – but I didn’t believe it, and therefore didn’t do it (“it” being following the suggestions of the emails).

What happened to make it ALL “FLY”  together was – I ordered the menu mailer. Not only have I lost 5.5 pounds in 8 days (no big deal, I have 100 to go, but I could not lose weight before last week) and I’ve ALSO walked everyday (some days TWICE!), drank my water, made my bedshined my sink, done my zones, my Weekly Home Blessing, I filled in the Control Journal, I’ve used my DUSTER and my TIMER; and it’s all been fantastically working!!! I have more time than I have ever had, I am happier than ever, I’m losing weight, dinner is on time (OR EARLY! can you imagine that!?!)! Everything those testimonials say is true and has come true for me. All because of the menu mailer!!

Just a few details – I was cluttered in my mind before last week. CLUTTERED, CLUTTERED, CLUTTERED! I didn’t have time to read those testimonials, but I refused to be one of those complainers that doesn’t know how to delete! I knew the answer was in there somewhere (along with your notes at the bottom of them, and your email notes to us, too). So, I kept reading them. But as I read them, my mind cluttered up and worst of all – my house cluttered up as well. Then, I bought the menu mailers. And I refused to let it be like the duster, the timer and the CJ – something I bought and didn’t use. So, after a
couple days, everything, every single thing fell into place. I focused on the grocery list, the menu and made dinner. That freed me up to make my control journal (I love your CJ, BTW) and routines fit my home, which led to extra time and so I walked, which led to the water, which led to the next and the next and the next. All of the sudden in 2 weeks – I know the secret. It’s get up and do it! It’s routines, routines, routines.

It’s organize by decluttering – and the first thing I had to do was declutter my mind. But I couldn’t without DOING your emails, from the first one in the morning to the last one at night. I understand everything now and it’s all so simple – it’s right there in the black and white of your emails – and now I am free!!!

I’ve written you before, on good days – and I’ve told you a lot about myself and my DH (who is very sick) and now, I understand. I have seen the light! Isn’t that corny? But it’s true . . . and now, for the first time, I can truly love myself – I wasn’t a loser, I wasn’t incapable, I wasn’t a failure, I wasn’t different or unique – the truth is I wasn’t doing what you suggested!!

That menu mailer is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Somehow, for some reason, that was MY answer. Getting control over what we would eat (what we eat is very important for my DH’s disease) and then DOING it by buying it and cooking it was so powerful, as far as giving me a handle on things – I was able to implement all the other SIMPLE suggestions you send us each day. I was just cleaning some cilantro for the soup and I realized – I have used everything I bought at the grocery store these past 2 weeks – no waste and SUCH HEALTHY, YUMMY, EASY MENU’S – my husband doesn’t know what’s come over me – but he is loving this divine food I’m serving him!! Not to mention spending a lot less money NOT buying things I WON’T USE, or
too much, etc. (I used to have to hide the food I threw away, it was SO much).

You could charge hundred’s of dollars for your service and so could LeAnne. God bless you for giving it away. God bless her for the INEXPENSIVE mailers she offers – Of course, I could write a whole ‘nother email on her menu’s – the
selection, and variety, and simplicity, yet “fancy” meals – I feel like we’re eating in a restaurant every night and yet I’M COOKING THE MEALS!

What a gift you’ve given me . . . I know what purple puddles are now. Feelings like this usually can’t be given, but you’ve found a way to give them to us. This feeling is similar to feeling reborn – or I would imagine how it feels to get out of prison. I told my 82 yr old dad, “today I feel as if I’ve just been let out of prison . . .”

God bless you, FlyLady, and God bless you, too, LeAnne. I think you are divinely inspired and led, and that’s not a joke.

Flybaby Robin
PUSH (Pray Until Something Happens)
ASAP  (Always Say A Prayer)

P.S. I’m sorry this was so long

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FlyLady here:  I am so proud of FlyBaby Robin!  She figured it out – you can have all the tools in the world but you have to USE them.

The timerthe control journal, and the calendar will change your life but you have to use them to make that change – owning them will not make it happen!

Step out with Faith and add these tools and habits to your life.  With tools and routines you will soar!

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Pamper Mission 04/20/2014

Pamper LotionSometimes a sensational pampering mission is just around the corner…  or to be more exact, around the corner, in the closet, on the bottom  shelf. Do you have wonderful lotions and potions and beauty gadgets  gathering dust, just waiting for a special occasion? Get out those pampering supplies and enjoy them now! Every day can be a special day if you don’t procrastinate about using the wonderful gifts life has
sent your way.

Don’t worry about using up a favorite item too fast. Much more often, our lotions and potions spoil before we use them up. There’s always a birthday, anniversary, or other gift giving occasion coming up that will enable you to replenish your stash.

Take time this week to enjoy those pampering gifts given to you by friends, gift with purchase items you put away for a rainy day, and the intriguing items you bought on clearance at the store. Use up that stash! If you find items you know you will never use, share those with friends and family who could use a little pick me up. You’ll enjoy the extra space and the recipient will enjoy their impromptu pampering session!

Pamper often; pamper frequently! You deserve it!

FLY!

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A Brighter Shade of Purple

Marla with CoffeeDear Friends,

Going green doesn’t have to cost us green money. We are very bright and each of us has come up with great ways to save money and FLY!

Everyone is feeling the pinch of the rising fuel prices. Did you know that when you are FLYing you are saving money and helping the environment? I want to discuss some of these money saving green/purple habits we can help you establish.

Decluttering 15 minutes a day! How can this save you money; I know you are thinking this? The act of decluttering makes you more particular about what you buy and bring into your home. This amazing thing happens because you begin to love yourself and the way your home looks. You have to really need something to buy it! Shopping becomes something you do because you don’t need a diversion from being at home feeling guilty about your clutter and all the stuff you buy because it is on sale. If you did not spend $20 a week on more clutter then you would have saved $1040 a year. This doesn’t even count the money you spend on the gas to run around and buy the clutter. Buying less reduces your carbon footprint. It also reduces your trash and landfills.

Picking out your clothes as part of your before bed routine! This simple action will give you more time in the morning so you can fix your breakfast and a cup of coffee before you head off to work. No more stopping for expensive drive thru breakfasts and designer coffees. You have to pleasure of a peaceful morning with your life under control along with your finances. If you spend $5 a day on a drive thru breakfast and a coffee then you could have saved $1300 in a year. Pulling out and trying on creates piles of clothes and those clothes get mixed up with your dirty clothes and then you use more water to wash them.

Planning your menus for next week and preparing a grocery list before you go shopping can help too. This keeps you from going to the grocery store multiple times each week. This alone can save you $50 a week. There is hardly anyway to keep from spending less than that each time you go to the store. If you are cooking then you are saving more money by not getting takeout from restaurants. That could alone could save you another $25 a week. This amounts to $3900 for a year. Then if you factor in the gas you save by only going to the grocery store once each week. Less gas used, buying fresh food instead of packaged also helps reduce our trash.

Wearing good shoes for your feet help in lots of ways! Good shoes gives you more energy and keeps you from breaking toes and cutting your precious feet. More energy helps you to exercise more and take better care of yourself; this saves on doctor bills. One co-pay for an office visit could save you $20 a month. A broken foot could set you back $1500 for an emergency room visit. Shoes save you more than you would ever think about. $1740 is amazing when a good pair of shoes could runs around $50. What an investment! This doesn’t even count the money you save because of the energy you have to keep your home in order. More energy means more walking instead of driving.

Next let’s look at how much you save by paying your bills on time and not running up your credit cards. One late charge a month or an over draft fee could run into $100 dollars a month. If there is one there are usually many. You are having to rob Peter to pay Paul. Stay on top of your bills and paying things on time is a major way to save money while FLYing! $1200 is a small amount to save when we examine what we really spend in those fees and interest rates. I haven’t even figured the cost of the fuel for all those extra trips to the grocery store, to pay a bill before the power gets turned off, doctor visits
and fast food trips. Besides the more you go shopping the more you spend. Fewer trips to the store will keep your bills affordable and you have not put that gas into your car and the pollution into the atmosphere.

So you see with these five simple habits you can save lots of money and help the environment. $9180 is no chump change to me. That is more money than I made some years in my career as a furniture store bookkeeper. That is $176 a week. WOW! Now that will buy you a tank a gas with some money for savings and something simple for you as a celebration!

FLYing makes good financial sense especially when the cost of gas is robbing us. We have been stealing from ourselves for a very long time with our SHEness. We can FLY and save money and the environment at the same time.

Are you ready to FLY and save the world?

FlyLady

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10 Minutes is Not Long Enough

Detail DusterHi FlyLady,

We moved from a 2 bedroom condo in Chicago to a 4 bedroom 3 bath home in Michigan. I have been on the wagon with your ideas and then off again. My question is about home blessing hour. My house is big enough that ten minutes really doesn’t do it? Can I set the timer for a long period of time? I tried dusting today and I didn’t hear the timer go off because I was too far away from it. I am not sure how long it took me to dust the house.

Thanks, Cindy

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FlyLady here: Cindy Cindy Cindy! You have allowed your perfectionism to make a simple task of dusting into something to be dreaded. This is why we have many useful tools in the FlyShop. Keep in mind that Weekly Home Blessing hour is not DETAILED CLEANING HOUR. Detailed cleaning is what our daily missions are all about.

You are not allowed to set your timer for more than 10 minutes. I do not want you to crash and burn. Weekly Home Blessing is just about getting the middles done. Don’t pull out couches or pick up the things on your end tables. Use your tools fast.

One time someone came to my house to see just how in the world I could dust whole our whole home in two minutes. I put on some fun music and did it for her. If I can do my whole house in 2 minutes with my feather duster then you can do your 4 bedroom home in 10 minutes.

Here is another option for you so you can hear your timer. If you have two floors then do a Weekly Home Blessing on Monday’s for your first floor. Then on Friday do another Weekly Home Blessing for your second floor. We don’t have to dust like our mothers did. I remember as a child being given that white glove test. We are the boss of our homes. There is no one who is going to do this to you.

Please let go of your perfectionism and remember that housework done incorrectly still blesses your family!

For your detailed cleaning zone missions we have a Detailed Duster.

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Adapting FlyLady For Us

A Can Do WorldDear FlyLady and Friends,

I just had to write and share with everyone how much the FlyLady system has changed my life. I have been fluttering around for a few months now, and found immediate success with the FlyLady system. Having been a perfectionist all my life, I found relief in having someone help me find a place to start - shining my kitchen sink. I have since stopped “my way” of cleaning – crisis cleaning and trying to clean everything in one day or night. I don’t worry about everything I haven’t done, but instead, focus on what I have done. I am so thankful for my Weekly Home Blessing Hour. This keeps my home company-ready and makes me feel good to be in my home.

I am under unusual circumstances right now. I am attending graduate school 2 hours away from home. Therefore, I live in an apartment near campus for 3 ½ days, and then commute back home to stay for the remainder of the week. Prior to finding FlyLady, I would have killed myself trying to clean our home my way while living away from home for half of the week. Not to mention the stress and pressure from being a graduate student.

Thanks to FlyLady, I have a system that works for me, even as a full-time graduate student and wife to a wonderful husband. My husband and I split the daily Missions for the week – he does the ones for the days I’m away, and I take care of the Missions for the days I am home. This works beautifully, as our house has not fallen apart or become chaotic since I have been gone. We are working together as a team, blessing one another with what we do in our home. The other day, my perfectionism, which I refer to as “The Beast”, tried to convince me that I wasn’t doing the FlyLady system right…that I also needed to be doing the detailed cleaning lists along with my Weekly Missions. I quickly cracked my whip at “The Beast,” reminding myself that there is no wrong way or right way to the FlyLady system. The beauty of this system is that you can tailor it to fit your lifestyle, which is exactly what my husband and I are doing now. We are doing what works for us, and we are very happy with the results. I also remind myself that I am doing more now than I have ever done, which is a sign of progress.

Another concept that is helping me right now is the “You can do anything for 15 minutes” phrase. I use this concept in application to my homework and big projects that I must tackle for graduate school.

I know this has been lengthy, but I just had to find a way to express my thanks for all the support, encouragement, and help you provide. I am a life that has been changed. Thank you for helping me preserve my sanity, and for helping me learn one baby step at a time that there is a better way to live – FLYing.

Christie in Knoxville, TN

 

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