Relationship Procrastination

Dear Friends,

Procrastination is the death of us, our relationships and our peace! This idea that we don’t have time invades all areas of our life and steals from us. Allowing this stinking thinking to take over has got to stop.

Relationships have to be nurtured. If not, you are going to wake up one day when the children are grown and not know the person you chose to spend your life with. You would have spent your life growing but not on the same path! It is up to us to make sure we grow together! Now don’t start whining that it is his responsibility to nurture the relationship too! You know what I am going to say! If you will set the example then you will see him follow your lead.

Letting go of your anger and resentment is the beginning to nurturing your relationship! Our procrastination has been used as a tool of revenge. It is called passive aggressive behavior. We have all used it and some of us may even be experts at it. You know what I always say! Nothing says I LOVE YOU; LIKE CLEAN UNDERWEAR! Well what does no clean underwear say to the people you love??? Not to mention being habitually late and dragging your feet when it is time to leave!

We have been in our master bedrooms this past week. I have gotten lots of testimonials about how comforting and inviting your bedrooms have become! I am so proud of you! This is a great start to taking care of yourself. The results are going to be amazing when it comes to your relationships.

Now don’t think I am going to leave out you single people! We all have relationships! Some are marital and others are friendship. We also have relationships with our ex-husbands even if we don’t want to think about them, especially if you have children together or you still get along with their families. The best thing we can do for our children is not beat down their father in front of them. Children have enough self-imposed guilt that they don’t need more because they love their father. My granny used to say, “If you can’t say anything good don’t say anything at all!” I have had to let go of my anger and pain; now it is just pity. My son loves his Dad and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

As for those friendships that you have let fall by the wayside, because your home was too messy for people to come over; it is time to pick up the phone and just say hi! You don’t have to figure out why the friendship dwindled, it just happened and someone needs to light a match under it and get the friendship rekindled. It is up to you. We tend to alienate ourselves because of our clutter. We refuse dinner engagements because we are afraid of having to return the favor! This is such a loss. We need friends. They support us and lift us up. Not many of us have ever had a friend that was messy too or that understood, so this is why we have hidden behind our doors of shame. We don’t have to be alone any more.

Relationships are not just inanimate objects; they are made of people with feelings. When we open up our hearts and let someone else in we become better people! We can’t just ignore the relationship and expect it to stay the same. People need attention! You need attention! If you give it, it will come back to you! I promise.

Let’s make a commitment to our relationships and give them the special attention that they deserve.

Are you ready FLY with your best friends by your side?

FlyLady

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