Dear Friends,

I started this group to help women get their lives in order. It was not to teach them how to badger their husbands to help in the home.

Many have complained that I don’t understand that husbands and wives have an equal responsibility in keeping the home working. YES, I do know this. But unless your husband is a part of this group or your
wife, I can’t help them. I can only help you. I don’t expect you to do it all, but you can and thousands have. What about the single moms or widows that have to do it all by themselves? Does no one care about them. They don’t have husbands to help. They have to take care of the whole home alone. Oh and I almost forgot the members, whose spouse is in the military and away from home for months at a time; Also the spouses who have to travel a lot with their jobs. They have the responsibility for the entire home on their shoulders.

What I have noticed, is that when the member of our group, albeit the husband or the wife, gets their routines in place and the clutter in the home is decreased, that they have found that the other spouse
comes around and starts to help, so do the children. They start to clean up their “off limits” HOT SPOTS! You know the ones that if you even touch, will get you in HOT WATER!

Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, as many of you think. I believe that this perception is hurting many families. Here is why.

When we feel we are doing our half of the work, we automatically feel slighted because we don’t feel our mate is doing his or her fair share. So we pout, fuss, or even go on strike. This is so silly.

Marriage is a 100%/100% proposition; Each person giving their all to the family. When you do all that you can, you have done your best. When you sit at the computer all day, don’t get dressed, and don’t
hit a lick at a snake(Southern for just do something), you are not spending your time wisely. All because your perception is, “Why should I clean up, it is just going to get messed up again!” or “He won’t even help, this isn’t my entire job! If he won’t help then it can just stay this way, I didn’t make the mess, so why should I clean it!”

There are many reasons for our members to not get their Franny’s up and moving. Most are just excuses. We all have the same number of hours in each day. Even members with several children are seeing progress. There are members with sickness that are doing well and there are members that work, either at home or away from home, that are seeing great progress.

So what is your excuse? Are you sitting pouting ’cause your spouse does not do his or her fair share? You can only change yourself and your own attitude. Get the mote out of your eye first. As you set the
example, by getting your HOT SPOTS clean, you are going to be so surprised at the changes in your family.

Are you ready to FLY?

FlyLady

P.S. This is my opinion of marriage! No whining allowed! I have seen thousand of homes helped by this one change in attitude! Try it, it just might help you too!