Dear Friends,
If you gain nothing else from our little system, I hope that this message will change your life. The routines will never work, until to begin to love yourself. With this love everything else falls right into place. Finally Loving Yourself is the lift you need to FLY high and be all that God wants for you.
So spread your wings and fly! Get out your hankies!
FlyLady
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Ladies,
My hair, make-up and clothes have officially been updated and met with whole hearted approval by my husband and sons. I believe I have also added two full inches to my height as today I am standing tall. After discovering my familys’ embarassment at my attitude and appearance before the holidays, I have been on a personal discovery adventure. Call it soul searching. I did not like many of the things I discovered. I had a lot of excess baggage to let go of. The death of my beloved father and three wonderful grand parents. A previous abusive marriage, miscarriages, over eating for comfort, giving up the home and career I loved to escape one failure after another. History, yes. But a history I was selfishly subjecting my loving husband and children to. Our life and home were a cluttered and dirty mirror of my past.
As the stylist cut my hair yesterday a very odd thing happened. With every snip a piece of the excess baggage floated to the floor. SNIP! My ex husband can no longer hurt me SNIP! I now have the best husband a girl could want and two wonderful healthy sons SNIP! Dad would not want me to still be grieving after 15 years SNIP! That old house is now in the middle of a bad neighborhood SNIP! I love being a wife and mother, I would not have that if I had stayed in my old career. On and on it went, failure by failure, sad thoughts, and petty fears.
I feel very, very light all of a sudden. I am standing tall becuase I now feel I have somthing to contribute to my family other than this freshly cleaned and decluttered home. My family will now have ME. I won’t say I’m healed. You don’t make this kind of a change just by getting a make-over. This was just the trigger to let go of the past.
Now I have to find out who I really am without all that baggage. I have a lot of fears to overcome. I don’t think it’s going to be easy, but I do think I have a good base to work on. There are many new found friends and a very loving, tolerant family to stand with me. Or to put up with me as the case may be over the course of the next few months, hahaha! There is hope now.
I am standing tall today, and I thank you for it. I thank you for being tough when I needed it, and for being a shoulder to cry on when I couldn’t fake it anymore. I thank you for kicking me into action every morning instead of lying in bed overwhelmed with thoughts of simple tasks. I thank you for telling me your are proud of my accomplishments and that I am loved, even when I didn’t think I deserved it. I thank you for the wonderful stories and the little giggles day to day. And I thank you for telling us your true confessions to remind us you’ve been there, done that, and know right where we are, we are not or ever have been, alone.
Then I thank God for sending me to you the day I told Him I was giving
up.
Fly Baby reporting for duty, Ma’am!
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FyLady here: I am so proud of her for stepping out in faith and letting go of her fears.
I just finished a wonderful book by Anita Moorjani, Dying to be Me. She told her story about dying of cancer. She spent 30 hours in a coma. The message she came back from the coma was to live her life fearlessly and to love herself. I cried as I read her words. I am crying now as I relay them to you! Finally Loving Yourself is the key! It is a universal message to save you from the fear, depression, and stress that you have placed on yourself.
