Terry and I went to the beach on our anniversary (25 years) and while he was driving I suggested we play a game.
“Is this gonna be some lady’s magazine deal?” he asked with a sense of apprehension.
“No, I’ve been reading Deborah Norvel’s book on the power of thankfulness.”
“So Deborah told you to do this?”
“Nope, I thought this game up all by myself.”
“So, I’ll tell you something I’m grateful to you for and then it’ll be your turn and you have to tell me something you’re grateful about me and the guy who says the last thankfulness statement wins.”
“What’ll he win?”
“He’ll get taken out to dinner when we get to the beach.”
We probably traded 15 thankful comments with each other and what was very interesting to me was how much I loved hearing his compliments for me and I couldn’t wait for the next one.
I was telling my friend about the game and she suggested we play it with our inner kiddies! So I had a session with Nelly. Here’s what happened.
“Since you already know what we’re going to do, do you want to go first?”
“No, you go first.”
“Okay, let’s see… I’m so thankful I met you and that we have so much fun together.”
“I’m thankful you’re always complementing me, like yesterday when you said, ‘I’m so proud of you for making breakfast when you wanted to go out to a restaurant.'”
“I’m thankful you don’t argue when I say what we’re going to do and especially when I know you don’t want to, like when you wanted to buy new shoes for our class reunion and I said, ‘no one is going to look at your feet and our old heels only get worn about once a year and they look fine.'”
“I’m thankful you let me play a lot.”
“I’m thankful you remind me to play a lot.”
“I’m thankful you know I’m not going to grow up, that I get to be a little girl forever.”
“I’m thankful for that too. It’s because of you that I find pleasure in all the little things. Like I loved how you wanted to stay out on the beach and watch the sunset and every time a little breeze popped up, you noticed it and it made you happy.”
“I’m thankful there are a lot of little things to love. Like puppies. I want a puppy.”
“I know. We can play with Joanna’s puppy.”
“I want Joanna’s puppy.”
“No, you can’t have it.”
“But she’s gonna get tired of it. Then can we have it?”
“Nelly, I guess the thankfulness game is over for now. You can’t have the puppy, but I’m so thankful you love puppies!”
That’s where our “thankfulness” session ended and it left me with a big smile on my face.
I spend an hour in solitude every day and in that joyful time I focus my attention inward. My connection to God is within and the funniest thing; Nelly is there a great deal of the time. I have this sense she spends a lot more time with God while I’m off running around in this busy world of stuff. Why not take a little time today and have your own “thankfulness” session with your inner child?