When all the womens magazines and all the grocery stores were trying to get you to buy Easter candy, were you able to pass up the temptations? Or did your visions of sugarplums dance in your head? Did your mouth water at the luscious looking Easter candy that was displayed everywhere you looked?
I received this email right before I sat down to write this essay and decided to let it be the subject of it.
Thank you for all the wonderful ideas and all the laughter over the years, you are the second funniest person I know!!! I ADORE the Toe Rosary. I have been using it night and morning and my version of a pedicure is so nurturing and pampering.
Since the New Year, 2015, began my beloved and I have been following a similar way of eating as yours. I am blessed with a wonderful European MIL who is still a fabulous cook at 94. She is oblivious to the fact that we have both lost 20 plus pounds and are feeling and looking good. When we declined her beautiful but deadly pancakes the other day saying that we had just had lunch…she burst into tears and said to her loving son….”You won’t eat anything I cook anymore.”
What might be your response or ideas to handle this? Can I even mention the 12 inch, 3 layer pecan meal torte that uses 15 eggs with the mocha ganache frosting that will be coming up for Easter lunch?
Yours in food, laughter & love.
My response to Heather turned into this essay. First I told her how I loved how she ended her note to me! Yours in food, laughter & love!
Second, I congratulated her on her weight loss! I’m so happy for her and her husband!
Third, I told her my heart goes out to her MIL, because she gets a lot of her love by being a fabulous cook and getting the kudos from it. Perhaps if she thought it was a matter of life and death for the two of them (and sugar really is, it just takes longer to kill us) she could tell her that she has discovered they’re both gluten intolerant and headed for Diabetes II and can no longer have sugar. They could act bummed and a little scared. For all we know, she may kick into being a fabulous low-carb cook!
I remember having such a heavy heart when I realized I could no longer, in good conscious, be the Cookie Grandma. I was known throughout my family as THE best chocolate chip cookie maker! It broke my heart to make the decision to never make them again, because when I faced what they were really doing to my beloved grandchildren (in a seemingly innocuous way) it was easier to keep my promise to myself (yet even as I wrote that to Heather, I missed making them, smelling them bake, seeing the babies watch them through the glass in the oven door and it makes me sad).
But I digress. Heather mentioned her husband was a loving son and I’m sure he was upset when his mother cried, however, we really are dealing with substance abuse and it can sound whacko to say that, but there is scientific proof that sugar is addictive and the notion to have one delicious, mouth-watering slice of that 12 inch, 3 layer pecan meal torte that uses 15 eggs with the mocha ganache frosting, is not any different than saying to a cocaine addict facing a 12 inch line of cocaine, “You can sniff up just 1/4 inch of the line, after all, it’s Easter.”
As you know, food carries with it such emotion, as it should. Food is family. Food is tradition. Food is sustenance. Food is love. To eliminate sugar from our life has emotional consequences, but it can also be the door-way to self-awareness. Eliminating sugar makes us come face-to-face with craving. When we face a craving, we either subconsciously give in to it or we deal with the temptation. When we win, we make a mental note and we get stronger in self-confidence.
Heather said in her note, both she and her husband look and feel better. Of course they do! For one thing, if they both strapped a 20-pound bag of dog food or potting soil to their backs for just one day, and tried to carry out their regular activities, it’s my bet they couldn’t do it.
Back to addiction, one of the four defenses an alcoholic uses is denial. It’s so easy to deny that sugar is harmful as most people do and yet most our mainstream diets are herding millions into diabetes, obesity, wheel chairs, oxygen tanks and all the aids needed for the infirm. Just look around!
We addicts have to be strong, because we have to face the daily bombardment of advertising and those processed food guys are serious about staying in business. At least if you’re a cocaine addict, you don’t have to see the covers of women’s magazines with the current holiday rendition of cocaine cleverly portrayed. Can you imagine the cover of the April issue of Family Circle, with 5 Ways to Brighten-Up Your Easter Cocaine, showing a rainbow of colored cocaine, on a pretty table next to an Easter Bunny?