Do you ever feel like you must be losing your mind? Someone says to you, “I told you that last week!” or “Don’t you remember?” We can get defensive about comments like this. I know I have. This morning as I was “sleeping in” it hit me what the problem is.
It is sensory overload and our database has failed to file the information in the proper place. Can you tell that I am learning to speak geek? Let’s think about this overload for a second. When I am sitting at home in my chair with my computer on my lap, three dogs, a television on with a ticker tape scrolling across the bottom or music playing, a house phone, a cell phone, my assistant Michele, my ipod, text messaging and instant messaging, emails coming in, the doorbell ringing, and my sweet darling somewhere in the house. It is a miracle that I can do anything much less remember something that is tossed into this chaotic mix.
We are so smug at believing that the ability to multitask is a virtue. All it really does is divide our attention, take us longer to accomplish anything and make us feel frazzled. Only thing that it does is make us look busy. Just because we look as if we are doing something doesn’t mean we are accomplishing anything. This is called busy work. It’s no wonder why we can’t remember anything. We are not losing our minds! We are multitasking!
My sweet darling laughs and tells me that I must have movie amnesia. This morning I have figured out why I don’t remember movies that we watch at home. It is because the movie never has my undivided attention! I watch with my computer on my lap! In the evening I don’t usually make business calls but my instant messenger is always up and I am checking emails. This is just the physical things I am doing with my hands. My mind is a million other places; processing ideas for essays and what is going to happen tomorrow.
So how do we stop this sensory overload? We have to pull the plugs! Let’s practice turning off and tuning in. This is not going to be easy. I know myself too well but I also know the satisfaction that comes from being able to accomplish something. This is how I wrote my first book, Sink Reflections. I had made myself a strict routine for the morning.
I know my mornings are my most productive time as long as I am not pulled in several directions at once. My routine started with getting dressed to lace up shoes, making my bed, swishing and swiping the bathroom, emptying the dishwasher, feather dusting, a quick dust mop of the floors and then eating my breakfast with a strong cup of coffee. This is my normal morning routine.
My goal was to write ten pages or three hours whichever came first. To accomplish this goal I had some rules for myself.
1. Do regular morning routine. Don’t allow my house to fall apart while I write.
We are very smart people. We don’t have to feel frazzled and pulled in many directions. As I have been writing this essay I have had to stop myself several times from turning on the television, radio or my iPod. We can focus! When we practice unplugging and tuning in to the power that we have in our brains the sky is the limit!
Are you ready to FLY! I am going to follow my own instruction and start on my next book. I can’t wait for you to see what is NEXT!
Here is a tip for your children to help them get their homework faster. Turn everything off and focus on the homework. My nephew did this and he could not believe how fast he got his homework done. He is now taking a semester off from Duke to build FlyLady Premium. He loves staying focused and helping others. I was the one who had to tell him; not his mom. Tell your children I said it! Then they can prove me wrong.
Have you been procrastinating about about getting your FlyLady Calendar? Have you been trying to make-do with small blocks for writing down your family’s busy schedule