From the day we were born we have had perfectionism shoved down our throats. You know those words as well as I do, “If you can’t do it right then don’t do it at all! We were also forced to redo things when we didn’t do them to suit the person giving the ORDERS!
None of us like to be dictated to! What we were taught by these words and actions is that it didn’t matter how well we did something because it was never going to live up to the expectations of that person we were trying to please. Do you want to know what happened then? We gave up! We didn’t even try anymore because we knew it would not be good enough.
This pattern of being put down was all you heard. That is why we feel the need to beat ourselves up when we don’t do something right! This negative attitude was drilled into our heads. We were brainwashed with this perfectionism. Now in our parents’ defense; they had the same thing done to them. It is all they knew! We can put a stop to this vicious cycle of perfectionism through the generations.
We are our own person and we have made a choice to change. We are not being dictated to by our parents any longer. You may have just gotten fed up with living in CHAOS (Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome) or you may have heard about this FlyLady person who can help you get your house clean. Whatever the reason; you are ready to try something new. This time the choice is yours!
When we get to make the decision it is much easier for us to do! The only problem is that we still have those negative voices echoing in our heads. This is why we beat ourselves up! It is those voices from the past that make FLYing difficult! They tell us the same old message we have heard from day one! You have to do it perfectly or don’t do it. So when you are not FLYing the way you think you are supposed to then you quit trying. This is also why we get overwhelmed!
In the perfectionism we had forced on us; we look at the whole picture instead of just doing something. We don’t think that 15 minutes can make a difference in a messy house. This goes back to getting it done right. We expect ourselves to magically do it all in one day! We are not Supermen or Superwomen! So with this negativity ping ponging in our heads we tell ourselves we don’t have time!
The real thing we are saying is not that we don’t have time, but that we don’t have time to do it right! This is when we begin to do what has always been done to us! We beat ourselves up or we punish ourselves. Because of this perfectionism we don’t feel worthy!
We don’t feel worthy to have nice things. We don’t feel worthy to live in peace. We don’t feel worthy to enjoy ourselves and worst of all we don’t feel worthy to be loved! I want to help you eliminate those unsaid thoughts from your mind. I want to replace them with loving thoughts and rewards for taking babysteps.
Your home did not get messy in a day and it is not going to get clean overnight. We are not our mothers and fathers. I don’t expect you to be perfect! So quit expecting perfection from your precious little inner child. When you start feeling defeated, overwhelmed and beaten down; I want you to recognize the voices you are hearing in your head. Then say delete delete delete!
You can do this! I am so proud of you for taking the time to read this God Breeze Hurricane! You are worthy of being loved! I will start this ball rolling by saying there is no wrong way or right way to FLY; there is only your way! It all starts by going to shine your sink and Finally Loving Yourself by not beating yourself up when you are not perfect!
Are You Ready to FLY!