Someone said, “Until you’re utterly disgusted with your old ways, you won’t break free to newness.” Do you believe that? Or do you have a sense that if you really make up your mind to do something, that’s when you break free? The bottom is certainly a great place to start, because there’s nowhere to go but UP. But no matter where you are right now, making a decision to change can be a turning point. Here’s an email from Anne in South Dakota who was heading for the bottom, but something changed her mind.
I just finished reading The GOOD Book and now I finally know who has been running my life! Sissy [inner child] has been making all my decisions and not just about money! She decides how much we spend and on what (she loves impulse buys) and so when we go grocery shopping she gets to fill the cart with the unhealthy foods she loves without any consideration for my health or my checkbook.
She chooses when we eat, how much we eat, where we eat (she often prefers fast food over cooking) and whether or not we exercise, usually choosing to sit and watch TV instead of climbing on the treadmill. I’ve been slowly de-cluttering the house but she is definitely making it more difficult by insisting that we hang on to so many of our childhood things. Stuffed animals, books and clothing are the things from our past that Sissy loves the best and even though I have three children that could be enjoying these things she stubbornly clings to these memories as if trying to fill a void left by the emotional wounds that happened so long ago.
Each and every day Sissy is running every aspect of my life. She makes us late for work almost every day and sometimes even decides how I deal or avoid dealing with my children and husband. Sissy is out of control and because of her I am overwhelmed, out of shape, unhealthy, sleep deprived, living in a house full of clutter, drowning in credit card debt and overweight by as much as a whole other person. (Hmmm, I wonder how much Sissy weighs!) Wow, I never thought a book about finances could ever show me why my entire life is out of control.
So now it’s time to work on Sissy and her will-full, self-absorbed, disregarding all other’s behavior. How empowering it is to know that I can be in control just by doing something as simple as putting Sissy in time out!
Thank you so much for your book and all its insights! I will be recommending it to my friends and family.
Anne (and Sissy) in South Dakota
The overwhelmed tone of Anne’s email is so typical when a person first discovers she can actually have a relationship with a part of her she has ignored. I suggested to Anne that in addition to putting Sissy in time out, she should praise her when she is good.
The GOOD Book: Get Out Of Debt is an excellent way to get to know your inner child. Once you realize, as Anne did, that your little one has been running the show you’ll be able to take baby steps to re-train her. I’ve learned from knowing my inner child for almost 14 years that she’ll never grow up. She’ll remain young forever, however she has turned into a happy well-behaved child and that’s what we ultimately want. It’s really all about leaving behind the notion of being your own enemy and becoming your own best friend.