You are an answer to questions that I didn’t know to ask. I have been FLYing for about three months (with an occasional flutter here and there) and I now hear your voice in my head when the p**fectionism tries to take over.
The monthly habit that is causing the most difficulties for me is December’s. When I was growing up, my mother was a martyr (with some justification) and trained me to be the same. Any relaxation/fun was to be done AFTER the chores were done, and while I resented it, I unconsciously absorbed it.
Yesterday, I was cleaning the kitchen, which took longer than normal
(traveling, procrastinating) and i was listening to my MP3 player. Suddenly, it occurred to me that, as a reward to myself, I would put Rock Band II in the XBox and sing.
What fun! I made up a cool character to be the lead singer for my band and sang for about twenty minutes. I left work undone and played instead. The house didn’t fall down and my mother didn’t pop out of the woodwork to tell me I was trifling and lazy.
What I didn’t do yesterday was easily accomplished today and my sink (and floors) are shiny. I have about two hours of wrapping to finish, which can be done over the next few days.
I’m cruising and pampering and a much nicer person.
Flybaby Lisa in Virginia
FlyLady Rebecca here: If you have Pampered yourself this month, send us an email to inspire other FlyBabies! Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org with PAMPERED in the subject line. I will post it in the December Habit so keep a lookout for your testimonial!