Thank you so much for all of your encouragement! I found you when I was angry with myself over all my clutter and for some reason… surely a God-breeze… decided to clear out my emails late one night. I found an email from my cousin recommending your website. I shined my sink and read your book Sink Reflections. I flew fairly strong at first and am now fluttering with some struggling.
As you say we cannot organize clutter. And I have a lot of clutter. We have a small home with my DH, DD, DS, and me. I am a collector by nature and have trouble flinging for fear I’ll regret it or need it later. And yes this all gets me in a procrastinated, perfectionist RUT which effects my mood daily.
Here I sit with my DD and DS’s small Christmas trees still up in their rooms. I usually put up Valentines/Snowman decorations after Christmas (I love the cheeriness of decorating seasonally), and here it is Valentine’s Day and I’ve never put them out! I just said to my DH last night that by the time I put our children’s trees up they won’t be so special this coming Christmas. Then I saw your email this morning and decided I should write you which I’ve also procrastinated on doing.
Besides De-Cluttering with little success. My biggest question/problem is that I set my timer for 15 minutes to do a job/blessing but the job is never done in that time whatever it may be, so I have trouble because then I have a bunch of half complete “jobs”/projects around the house haunting me. HELP… any suggestions?!?
Thankful for your insights and encouragement!
Fluttering in Fountain Inn, SC
Fluttering is FLYing! Yes your perfectionism does put you in a rut. When you don’t think you have time to do it all; YOU DO NOTHING! That is procrastination. I don’t see that you have half finished jobs around your home; you have unstarted jobs that are haunting you.
In my book, Sink Reflections we talk about hitting a lick at a snake. This means doing something. You are not even getting started because you don’t think you can finish. The timer is all about not hyper-focusing and burning out but it also gets you started. Unless you allow your perfectionism to stop you before you start!
I like to play games. Sometimes my timer is the starters pistol. It gets me up to do just one thing. In fact the day I took down my Christmas tree; I set my timer every 15 minutes. By the end of the day, the ornaments were in their box, the tree bagged up, put in the garage. I did this by staying consistent. I did not hyper-focus! I would get up and spend about three minutes taking ornaments off the tree. Then I would sit down till the timer went off again. You can get so much accomplished when you make it fun. I have also used this method while watching my favorite movies on the Hallmark Channel. I would get up and do something during the commercials.
We allow our brains to make us think that a job is going to take longer than it really does. Set your timer and don’t think of it as a race to get it all done in 15 minutes. Pace yourself by doing 2 minutes or 5 minutes and resting for the rest of the 15 minutes. Then get up and go again.
Don’t let your perfectionism keep you from doing anything!