We have all had a rough week. Our way of life is being attacked on all fronts. This past Thursday, I was on my soapbox about it all. The only real things we have control of is our homes, our minds, and our tongues. We can choose to love with all of our hearts; not just with words only. Our actions speak louder than words.
We set the tone for our homes. Our voice can either bring comfort or it can instill fear. The actions that go with those words show your family if you are genuine. If your family sees you act all sweet and kind when you are outside of your home; then when you get home you are hateful. You are teaching them that you are a fake!
Saturday Morning I got up to an amazing testimonial! I have been in tears for hours as I write this. We never know when our words are going to touch someone. If I had not gotten rid of my clutter; I would have never become FlyLady! I would have been too busy putting out the fires from the CHAOS in my life. A few simple habits strung into morning, afternoon, and evening routines changed my life forever!
Are your words and actions terrorizing the people who live inside of your house? Will those words be the negativity that they hear in their heads long after you are gone? You can leave a legacy of love! Turn those four walls into a haven which blesses all who enter!
I am thanking God for His Breezes and for this precious woman who had the courage to get up and do something different. She made a change in her life!
I have written you several times but I don’t think any one of them has ever told you how much you have saved me! Literally!
When I was growing up, my mother had her way of doing home keeping. It was to be done perfectly with no mistakes. For years, household chores were not only a burden but proof that I was never going to be good enough for anything. The sad part was that it didn’t stop when I moved away from home either. My parents would always have their opinions on where my life needed improvement and their way was the only way!!! Whether it was not enough education or my choice in clothing to the way I kept my own home…it was not good enough. You can imagine how much pressure I was under to hear that someone else’s child was better than my own parent’s child. I was already depressed from not being good enough.
Yet, the constant feelings of worthlessness still lingered until I hit rock bottom and the only thing in my mind was suicide. I really felt that people would be better off if I was gone. All of this was going on until 2002!
Fast forward to today. At the age of 38, I have been using your system continuously since 2003! My family and I have just moved into a home that we own and not rent. I have a very supportive husband, three handsome boys, and one beautiful daughter! My home, my yard, our vehicles, and groceries are ready for company or emergencies. People ask me when do I have time to go get a manicure and pedicure when I have so many other things to get done? My answer: “I do my own manicures, pedicures, and eyebrow waxes because I have time! My FlyLady Routines showed me how to break everything down so that I have time to pamper me, bless my house, spoil my husband, and play with the kids!” Then I tell them how everyone needs to give FlyLady.net a try because they do not have to feel burdened or overwhelmed and that they are good enough!
Most importantly, I tell them that FlyLady teaches us to LOVE because God is LOVE. And that is what you have done for me! With each spray of my ammonia and water mixture spray bottle you are giving me the hugs and telling me that I am worth it! You tell me that I can have a clean home, and peace. You tell me that when I swish and swipe my toilets, that it’s good enough and it doesn’t have to be perfect. You are my messenger from John 5 in the Bible. It Is my favorite lesson in the Bible. In John 5, there was a man who had been in the same place for 38 years. Jesus saw him one day, looked him over, and asked him if he wanted to Get Well?! Of course, this guy is like a lot of people who are struggling with their homes….like him, he made the excuse that he had no help . Then Jesus yelled at him to “GET UP”! And he did! And that is what you want us to do is quit feeling sorry for ourselves and get up. That is what I had to do was get up.
But if it hadn’t been for you telling me to get up…I have no idea where I would be. Thank you! God truly has an angel on earth and her name is FlyLady! I tell everybody about 2 things now: Jesus and FlyLady! The difference you make in people’s lives is extraordinary. I can’t thank you enough for always being an email or click to FlyLady.net away.
Loving My Life in Ga.