Dear FlyLady,
I’ve been a struggling follower for a long time, and when I read your stuff about perfectionism, I thought “Good heavens, how can I be a perfectionist? I’ve been messy all my life and forever sidetracked.” Then, this week, a monstrous ah ha moment happened.
For a long time I’ve kept my kitchen sink shiny, even when things get chaotic around it. Monday I came home from being away for the weekend, and found I had left a dirty coffee mug in the sink and one side had coffee stain in it. I had an immediate sinking feeling that once again I had failed, that I may as well give up.
But from somewhere came a voice that said, “How absolutely, laughably absurd!! It will take less than a minute to fix that. You don’t have to be perfect!” Since then I’m catching myself avoiding good routines because “It’s a mess, anyway.” You’ve talked about the awful “P” word over and over, but it took a blessed moment of insight to make it mean ME.
I’m not religious, but I’m quite willing to call that a God breeze.
Fledgling in MO.
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FlyLady here; Once we have that realization that we are perfectionist; we can nip that stinkin’ thinkin’ in the bud. You will be so surprised at how often that perfectionism rears its UGLY HEAD!
For years I have worked to help you replace those negative voices in your head with positive encouragement. At first you hear my voice; eventually it will be your voice.
We have a new way to help you drown out those negative voices. We set up a Radio page of all my Podcasts on BTR.