Hi lovely FLYMamma (cos that’s how I think of you)

I was glad to read “intentionally flying” this morning where the FLYbaby admits to listening to your messages for 5 years and is slowly owning your words. FLYWashing has been so vital for me. I know that if I had thrown myself in I would have just crashed and burned and them stopping your system. Because it doesn’t work, effectively, long term and REALLY without the gentleness and self- love that you advocate.

I refused to shine my sink for over a decade (I’ve emailed you on finding my no and yes) but kept reading and pottering about with implementing bits and pieces. Especially hearing your gentleness and firmness – both of which I needed in your equal measure.

On the surface always the extremely Good Girl, I’m increasingly meeting and friending the very passive aggressive rebel inside me. It’s as if I know deep inside – beyond even the rebellious teen in me – that everything in your system works but I refused to do it your way. My bathrooms and bedroom have each had their shiny sink (swish and swipe and bed made) from the beginning. But it’s taken years of internal, personal and marital FLYWashing and decluttering for me to have finally this week caught the house decluttering bug. If I’d attacked my mounds of clutter (and hoarding) in an angry, adrenaline fueled spirit it would have been like ripping off a plaster on a raw wound.

Your system is a beautiful and vital mixture of cognitive, mental/verbal and behavioural/habit therapy. Just doing or just thinking would not have worked for me. Changing my thinking while getting my body busy (and sometimes vice versa) is just what I’ve needed.

Thank you

FLYing in England