Back to Basics Day 7: If Momma Ain’t Happy

Dear Friends,

My only concern in the world is for you, your home and your family. I want you to realize that my mission in life is to help you find the peace that I have found. Without my routines, I would not be able to help you. I applaud those of you that have other missions; we all have to find our paths in life. My mission is to help you clear out the clutter so you will know what your mission is. We have seen this happen time and time again.

But it doesn’t happen over night! Despite the fact that we can crisis clean and the house will look presentable for company! Our attitudes are the peaceful deciding factor in our homes. Let’s think about this for a minute. When we clean and feel that we are the only one who does anything, then we are playing the martyr. Regardless of the fact that the statement may be true, you have made yourself feel bad (pity-party again) and let’s not forget about the deafening sounds of silence in your pout or even worse the loud yelling tones of disapproval toward your family and the screaming demands for someone to get off their backside and help you!

Everyone will stay clear of you at this point! No wonder you don’t have any help. No one wants to be around you! Now let’s look at the reverse of this whiny attitude.

When we quit nagging, pouting, yelling, screaming, and just go about our daily routines then the tone of your home and your voice begins to change. The yelling, screaming, nagging, and pouting have not worked to get any help around the house; then why not try something different. A change in attitude!

You are responsible for the tone in your home. You can decide to be happy and it will happen. You can be mad and everyone will be mad, or you can be in a tizzy and the whole house will be turned upside down in a matter of a few minutes. You can be stressed and fearful, and your babies will know it. So will your critters.

So why does it have to be your responsibility for the tone in your home. I don’t rightly know, but as we say in the south, “If Mama ain’t happy then nobody’s happy.” Maybe it is because we are the nurturers. I know when I am sick, I still want my Momma! We look to the female of our species to take care of us, whether we are 5 or 50. I didn’t make the rules, but we are all called on to live by them whether we like it or not. Rebelling doesn’t make us any happier. Besides what is wrong with being content.

I am listening to a beautiful piece of music right now. My Sweet Darling put on a violin concerto by Mendelssohn. I asked him to tell me what he knew about the composer. He told me that his critics said his music had no conflict and resolution, that it was too sweet. Well to that I say what is wrong with sweet, does everything have to be conflicted and be fixed! I kind of like being satisfied, content, and things going along smoothly.

Since having my routines and clutter out of my life along with my new attitude, I no longer live on Adrenalin. For years I was constantly putting out fires and running around with my head cut off. When you are tearing through life: you miss so much as well as being more accident prone because of your rushing. When are you going to slow down and let your routines put you on automatic pilot? It is such a blessing to flow through your day and not be feeding on the frenzy of CHAOS! You are going to be so surprised when your calm example entices your family to pitch in. I know you don’t believe me, but it will happen if you will take our attitude adjusting essays to heart and let them turn your CHAOS into peace!

Are you ready to FLY?


Tip of the Day: Set aside some time for you today. Your family will thank you because your patience will be replenished. 

Back to Basics Mission #13 What’s for Dinner Put something in your slow cooker so you don’t have to spend a lot of time in the kitchen today. I love to make comfort food on Sunday; a pot roast, spaghetti, a pot of chili. Get your dinner started and let the slow cooker do the work. Send an email to with DINNER IS COOKING in the subject line.

Back to Basics Mission #14 Take some time for you on Sunday. Sunday is our day to renew our spirit. This is all about lifting you up! Spend time in Church, prayer, meditation, listening to beautiful music, or taking a nap. Get some quiet time! Send an email to with MOMMA IS HAPPY in the subject line.

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