Column 7 – We Just Want to Feel Loved, by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

We all get in an uproar about Valentine‚Äôs Day. All any of us want is to feel loved! We don’t have to wait for someone to love us, we can start today by taking a little time to pamper ourselves.

I can hear you now! I don’t have time to pamper myself! Those words, I don’t have time are your first clue that the stress level is starting to build. When you hear those words come out of your mouth or scroll pass that mental TV screen in your brain; I want you to stop whatever you are doing and realize that those words are a form of perfectionism. Set a timer for 2 minutes and do something for yourself.

There you go again with that perfectionism! “What can I do in two minutes to pamper myself! That isn’t enough time to do anything!” OH YES IT IS!

I am going to give you a little list to get you feeling special!

1. File your fingernails
2. Drink a glass of water
3. Eat a healthy snack
4. Freshen your make up and smile at yourself in the mirror
5. Make a cup of tea or my favorite Cafe Mocha
6. Pick up a magazine and read or look at the pictures
7. Listen to your favorite CD
8. Close your eyes and breathe slowly and deep
9. Open up your personal journal and write
10. Make a list of things you are thankful for
11. Pet your cat or dog

It is the act of stopping the negative perfectionist thinking that helps to defuse the stress! The icing on the cake is the pampering action that takes care of you!

All that any of us have ever wanted is just to feel loved! You find us because you are searching for a way to get your home in order. You never dreamed that Finally Loving Yourself is the key that opens the lock that has kept you hidden away from the simple joys of life.

I am having a cup of Cafe Mocha right now. Here is my simple recipe, just mix it up and scoop out 1/4 of a cup for each mug with 1 cup of hot water.

1 cup of instant coffee, 2 cups of Nestles Quik and 3 cups of powdered milk.

Are you ready to FLY? Pick seven of these ways to pamper yourself and do them today. This can be your daily Valentine to yourself!

For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections published by Random House and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter published by Simon and Schuster. Copyright 2011 Marla Cilley Used by permission in this publication.

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