I Did it for Me

FlyLady Ultimate TimerDear FlyLady,

I am a SAHM FlyMom with 3 kids (9,6,4) who has been fluttering for over 3 yrs. with your system.  I am nowhere close to perfect (and never will be), but I have come SO far in these many years.

Anyway, I have to tell you about a recent phenomenon.   My in-laws came to stay with us for 4 nights.  Although I was happy to see them and to give up
our bed for them, I was not looking forward to the disruption to my routines.  I did my weekly blessing and some decluttering every day until they came.  However, I still saw stuff everywhere and felt overwhelmed by it all.  The martyr in me was whining “No one is helping me”, “I am doing the best I can with everything else on my plate”…etc.

Two days after they left, my oldest DS was going off to sleepover with a classmate.  My Mom took the younger kids to sleepover at her house.  I did
MORE in the hour before I went to drop off the kids than in the “four days of preparation” for my in-laws.  I wandered around the house with a bin and got all the small toys and dumped them in the toy box, went under all the kid’s beds and got all the toys and clothes.  I vacuumed the upstairs including under the kid’s beds.

I realized later it was because I did it FOR MYSELF.  I wanted to relax and have a super long date night with DH.  I did not want to spend my free time
a) cleaning or b) feeling guilty.  Notice what the right motivation (FOR ME)
and a deadline (A TIMER) can do.  You have to do this stuff for yourself and
the rest of it will happen naturally.

Thank you FlyLady and all the wonderful crew.  You have changed my life and I tell my kids “Everyone makes mistakes”, “It doesn’t have to be perfect”
all the time.  What a great legacy!!

ATL area FLyBaby

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