I Forgot to Check my Calendar

Dear FlyLady,

I have a calendar, I use my calendar, I check my calendar, oh well, I forgot to check it yesterday and ended up taking my dog to the vet for his check-up, rabies and distemper shots 2-1/2 hours EARLY!!

See, I “thought” I remembered what time the appointment was so like most SHEs, I didn’t check the calendar. I just drove the 18 miles to the vet and apologized to them for being a few moments late. Imagine my surprise when the receptionist looked at me and said, “Leah, you’re not late; your appointment isn’t until 3:20PM”. It was 12:45PM. I looked at my dog, who looked at me and we went back to the car and back home. At 2:45PM I put the dog, albeit a confused dog at this point, back into the car and we drove back to the vet. You’ll be glad to know that Rookie is in perfect health. I, however, am still in need of FlyLady on a daily basis to keep me in good order!

I thought you’d get a chuckle out of Rookie’s double trip to the vet. Yes, I have a calendar. Yes, I use my calendar. Yes, I’ll be checking it every day from now on!

Tons of love,
FlyBaby L

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Here is a favorite essay on how to develop your Calendar Habit: Morning, Afternoon, and Evening!

Dear FlyLady,

Did you know that most sidetracked people are calendar challenged? It took me years and thousands of dollars to finally develop a system that worked for me. With every new system I tried to get my home organized, I would buy a planner in hopes that it would somehow miraculously fix me. Guess what, it doesn’t happen!

Many calendars are developed by naturally born organized people. These folks automatically know how to use one. If they came with directions, we wouldn’t use the instructions anyway. Our system is a bit different. We teach you routines that actually tell you to open up your calendar and check your appointments. This seems strange for born organized people. They have never needed to be reminded to check their calendar. In fact they think something is wrong with us, because we need this kind of prompting. Let me tell you one little thing. We are every bit as smart as the next person; we just have a little different way learning.

These things that come naturally to born organized people, we have to practice and develop into habits. It took me 30 years to learn how to use a calendar. As I started adding one habit at a time to my daily routines, the calendar became an integral part of my planning for the next day.

In order to know what clothes to lay out for the next day, I had to know what was on my schedule for tomorrow. So I would look at my calendar that I kept right beside my Control Journal and check my appointments. Then the next morning I would recheck it, after all I had slept and there is no telling what I had forgotten during the night. So I would write it down in order not to have to remember and keep juggling bits of information in my brain. This in itself relieves stress, especially if you only write these things in one place.

This is why we recommend using one family wall calendar not three of them or twenty different slips of paper stashed in your purse, posted on the refrigerator or piled on a so-called desk that is a super fund hotspot! We don’t even care what kind of calendar you use, just that you practice using one. I had wasted a lot of money on planners/calendars, so I told myself that I would not buy anything else until I could develop the habits that would insure that the calendar would be used instead of gathering dust. I started with a free calendar. You know the ones that you get as an advertisement at the beginning of a new year. I used this until my schedule became too big and I didn’t have enough room to write my appointments.

We want to teach you how to use your calendar, but keep in mind it is a tool and a tool will do you no good if you don’t learn how to use it properly. Checking your calendar is part of your morning and before bed routine.

Each week we check our schedules with our family members to determine our menus for the next week and prepare our grocery list. You can also use it on your desk day to plan for bill paying and sending birthday cards. Your calendar will become your life if you will use it in conjunction with your control journal to act as your memory so you don’t have to try and juggle all the information in your head.

These skills don’t happen overnight. They take time to develop and implement. You can do this. Let me tell you, if I can do this after 30 years of being calendar challenged, you can too.

I want for you what I have and it is a peace that comes from not missing an appointment, paying my bills on time and knowing that I haven’t forgotten some important date. You can have this too. Follow our directions and you will find yourself FLYing before you know it. Baby steps will get you there. I promise.

Are you ready to FLY with your Calendar guiding you every step of the way?

FlyLady

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